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Traits of an Empath OR “Hey Man! Keep yo’ energy to yo’self!”

Being empathic is a royal pain. Emotions come at you from people in the room like spit wads – “Hey! which one of you folks is making me feel sad/angry/anxious? Did I do something wrong? Are you mad at me? You got it in my eye!”

There’s a need to figure out how to fully harness its positive potential because most of the time it’s basically emotional schizophrenia running willy nilly through the brain and body. It’s exhausting.  ~ST

Who is an Empath?

By Christel Broederlow

Empathy is the ability to read and understand people and be in-tune with or resonate with others, voluntarily or involuntarily of one’s empath capacity.

Empaths have the ability to scan another’s psyche for thoughts and feelings or for past, present, and future life occurrences. Many empaths are unaware of how this actually works, and have long accepted that they were sensitive to others.

Empaths Sense Deep Emotions

Empathy is a feeling of another’s true emotions to a point where an empath can relate to that person by sensing true feelings that run deeper than those portrayed on the surface. People commonly put on a show of expression. This is a learned trait of hiding authentic expression in an increasingly demanding society.

An empath can sense the truth behind the cover and will act compassionately to help that person express him/herself, thus making them feel at ease and not so desperately alone.

Empaths experience empathy towards family, children, friends, close associates, complete strangers, pets, plants and inanimate objects. Empathy is not held by time or space. Thus, an empath can feel the emotions of people and things at a distance. Some are empathic towards animals (ie: The Horse Whisperer), to nature, to the planetary system, to mechanical devices or to buildings etc. Others will have a combination of the above.

Deep Sense of Knowing

Empaths are highly sensitive. This is the term commonly used in describing one’s abilities (sensitivity) to another’s emotions and feelings. Empaths have a deep sense of knowing that accompanies empathy and are often compassionate, considerate, and understanding of others.

There are also varying levels of strength in empaths which may be related to the individual’s awareness of self, understanding of the powers of empathy, and/or the acceptance or non-acceptance of empathy by those associated with them, including family and peers. Generally, those who are empathic grow up with these tendencies and do not learn about them until later in life.

Inherited Trait?

Empathy is genetic, inherent in our DNA, and passed from generation to generation. It is studied both by traditional science and alternative healing practitioners.

Empathy has both biological/genetic and spiritual aspects.

Empaths often possess the ability to sense others on many different levels. From their position in observing what another is saying, feeling and thinking, they come to understand another. They can become very proficient at reading another person’s body language and/or study intently the eye movements. While this in itself is not empathy, it is a side-shoot that comes from being observant of others. In a sense, empaths have a complete communication package.

How Empathy Works

While there is much we don’t yet understand about how empathy works, we do have some information. Everything has an energetic vibration or frequency and an empath is able to sense these vibrations and recognize even the subtlest changes undetectable to the naked eye or the five senses.

Words of expression hold an energetic pattern that originates from the speaker. They have a specific meaning particular to the speaker. Behind that expression is a power or force-field, better known as energy. For example, hate often brings about an intense feeling that immediately accompanies the word. The word hate becomes strengthened with the speaker’s feeling. It is that person’s feelings (energy) that are picked up by empaths, whether the words are spoken, thought or just felt without verbal or bodily expression.

Empaths are often poets in motion. They are the born writers, singers, and artists with a high degree of creativity and imagination. They are known for many talents as their interests are varied, broad and continual, loving, loyal and humorous. They often have interests in many cultures and view them with a broad-minded perspective. They are mother, father, child, friend, nurse, caregiver, teacher, doctor, sales people… to psychic, clairvoyant, healer, etc. (That is not to say that any of these categories are all empaths.) The list is extensive and really unimportant. It is more important to notice that empaths are everywhere–in every culture and throughout the world.

Empaths Are Good Listeners

Empaths are often very affectionate in personality and expression, great listeners and counselors (and not just in the professional area). They will find themselves helping others and often putting their own needs aside to do so. In the same breath, they can be much the opposite. They may be quiet, withdrawn from the outside world, loners, depressed, neurotic, life’s daydreamers, or even narcissistic.

They are most often passionate towards nature and respect its bountiful beauty. One will often find empaths enjoying the outdoors, beaches, walking, etc. Empaths may find themselves continually drawn to nature as a form of release. It is the opportune place to recapture their senses and gain a sense of peace in the hectic lives they may live. The time to get away from it all and unwind with nature becomes essential to the empath. Animals are often dear to the heart of empaths, not as a power object, but as a natural love. It is not uncommon for empaths to have more than one pet in their homes.

Traits of an Empath

Empaths are often quiet and can take a while to handle a compliment for they’re more inclined to point out another’s positive attributes. They are highly expressive in all areas of emotional connection, and talk openly, and, at times, quite frankly in respect to themselves. They may have few problems talking about their feelings.

However, they can be the exact opposite: reclusive and apparently unresponsive at the best of times. They may even appear ignorant. Some are very good at blocking out others and that’s not always a bad thing, at least for the learning empath struggling with a barrage of emotions from others, as well as their own feelings.

Empaths have a tendency to openly feel what is outside of them more so than what is inside of them. This can cause empaths to ignore their own needs. In general an empath is non-violent, non-aggressive and leans more towards being the peacemaker. Any area filled with disharmony creates an uncomfortable feeling in an empath. If they find themselves in the middle of a confrontation, they will endeavor to settle the situation as quickly as possible, if not avoid it all together. If any harsh words are expressed in defending themselves, they will likely resent their lack of self-control, and have a preference to peacefully resolve the problem quickly.

Empaths are sensitive to TV, videos, movies, news and broadcasts. Violence or emotional dramas depicting shocking scenes of physical or emotional pain inflicted on adults, children or animals can bring an empath easily to tears. At times, they may feel physically ill or choke back the tears. Some empaths will struggle to comprehend any such cruelty, and will have grave difficulty in expressing themselves in the face of another’s ignorance, closed-mindedness and obvious lack of compassion. They simply cannot justify the suffering they feel and see.

People of all walks of life and animals are attracted to the warmth and genuine compassion of empaths. Regardless of whether others are aware of one being empathic, people are drawn to them as a metal object is to a magnet! They are like beacons of light.

Even complete strangers find it easy to talk to empaths about the most personal things, and before they know it, they have poured out their hearts and souls without intending to do so consciously. It is as though on a sub-conscious level that person knows instinctively that empaths would listen with compassionate understanding.

Here are the listeners of life. Empaths are often problem solvers, thinkers, and studiers of many things. As far as empaths are concerned, where a problem is, so too is the answer. They often will search until they find one–if only for peace of mind.

Written by Christel Broederlow Copyright (c) 2002 Christel Broederlow Shortened Version from The Empath Report 101

About this contributor: Christel Broederlow is a natural born empath and author of numerous articles about empathy through personal experience and continual research. Her Web site, The Empath Report, previously hosted at Geocities is no longer active.


Newsflash – we DO feel things. Eventually.

Michael Jackson

 

A common misperception is that our tribe can seem “unfeeling, cold or unemotional” to things going on around us.  It’s not that.  It’s just that we tend to need a LOT more time to process things.  We aren’t able to instantly emotionally react because we need to think about it all to even know how we feel.

Perfectly weird example….As an 80′s kid, I loved Michael Jackson.  I even threw my Brooke Shields doll in the sump pump when they started dating.  I’ve noticed in the past month or so, when I think about him, I feel deep sadness (oops tearing up now), but before that I felt nothing.  The day he died, I felt nothing.  I hated myself for feeling nothing.  I’ve since realized it just takes me longer to feel things, and then I REALLY feel them.  Now excuse me while I tell my kids to “Beat It”.


(anti) Social Media – AD(H)D Superhero updates for 2011

My Facebook updates from 2011.  When I read this straight-through, even I was shocked at my wackiness.  Here’s to making you all feel less crazy!  XO  ~ST

 

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It’s quite apparent that I actually took my meds today…whereas normally it would never even cross my mind to vacuum, not only did I vacuum, I actually took the flipping thing apart and washed it piece by piece. Of course, the pieces are still drying on the counter, and will be for the next three or four weeks OR until I decide to vacuum again…

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Is there such thing as an email phobia? If so, I have it…I’m talking, a hard core phobia. I can’t look at it…it’s been weeks and weeks and weeks. Just the thought of checking it makes my armpits itch…

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Nikko (5 yrs.): Mom, are you from New York?

Me: No…why?

Nikko: Because you always act really weird.

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I just yelled at the kids to “CLOSE YOUR MOUTHS AND START EATING!!!”  Maybe that’s why they think I’m weird.

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If you want to see a grown-ass woman have a public meltdown, just change the layout of the store she frequents…I’m talking to you TARGET!

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Am I the only one that has changed my FB profile to the British version to shake things up a bit? I was hoping my “friends” would now be called “mates” but the only thing I’ve noticed is that “o-r” words have now become “o-u-r” words. Bloody hell!

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I really need to learn to practice patience…I thought doing jumping jacks would be a productive way to keep from pulling my eyeballs out of my head while waiting for my tea to warm in the microwave. Apparently I haven’t used those foot muscles in a while, because I now look like a pirate as I limp around the house. ARGHHHH Matey!

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I’m not kidding…I forgot what I was going to write.

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Hmmm. How many “me” things have I had to apologize for this week? Forgetting (multiple times), social anxiety, sensory over-stimulation, introversion, not reading my email or having my phone attached to my hip, having difficulty with transitions, etc., etc., etc. How am I supposed to accept these “infractions” when some around me are CONSTANTLY bringing them to my attention? P.S. – I’m not really sorry.

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Tomorrow, I’ll get on email. Tomorrow, I’ll get on email. Tomorrow, I’ll get on email.

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Winter blues? Take a whiff of Bergamot to fight depression!

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Procrastination is not a bad thing, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! Without those executive function skills that “normal” people have, a looming deadline is the only thing that tells our brain that we need to get on the ball. Procrastination is a MUST in our superhero tool belt if we want to accomplish anything!!!

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OH JOY, OH JOY! I finally made it through my holiday super-funk! It’s like clock-work every year, so I just push through, and then suddenly, (angels singing) I see the light.

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Pulling out my focus arsenal to write! Aromatherapy, lamp-lit room, and brain wave app. – geez…it takes a village!

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I lose interest in my coffee as soon as it stops burning my tongue.

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Who else has sensory issues? I’m the proverbial “have to turn down the radio to smell the stew”. That’s the stuff that makes life interesting! :)

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I’m pretty sure I could be a gourmet chef, if only I could get someone to do all of the boring parts, like cutting up the veggies!

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Meeting fellow superheroes is amazing…imagine how banded together, we could change the world!

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Am I the only one that gets TOTALLY stressed and overwhelmed by email?!?! I almost dislike it as much as my phone! Well, I actually only dislike my phone when people call it…

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It’s kind of hard to plan ahead, when I spend all of my time just trying to catch up!

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I love my phone, and its ability to run apps. I use a brain wave app, when I’m attempting deep focus, and it works amazing. If you have a smartphone, do yourself a favor and download a brainwave app!

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ADHD is like a built-in adventure creator…make sure your bags stay packed.

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I always forget words just as I’m getting ready to use them. It’s actually a condition associated with ADHD, and guess what…I can’t remember the name of the condition!!!!

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Bummer…went into a funk.  Will reappear shortly.

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Still in that funk…almost out of the cave…maybe.

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Try not to “should” on yourself, and don’t let other people “should” on you, either.

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When you say something, most people think that you mean what THEY mean when they say the same thing, which for me most times is the complete opposite!

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Get your A-Team together!

I’ve found delegating to be a real key when it comes to happy wife, happy life…

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Glad to be out of the super-funk! I’ve got lots of living to do before the next one rolls around! :)

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Man oh man…don’t we give ourselves enough sh*t without having people around us give us a dose of their sh*t too?

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Do you suffer from anxiety? Anxiety, depression and AD/HD are BFFs and love to hang out together!

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Happy Earth Day!!!!

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‎”Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

~Albert Einstein

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So, for the past couple of weeks I’ve been doing that whole “3 P” thing…perfectionism which leads to procrastination which leads to paralysis. Now, I’m in the paralyzed state. I really detest the paralyzed state…a state where I’m not moving forward. So I do move forward…into the dead place. Here I am. Curse you dead place!

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Even in the face of resistance, it’s imperative that we remain the natural, organic versions of our selves! Fight for your right to be quirky, dammit!!!!

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AD(H)D gives us a magical perspective that comes from intimately engaging with the universe in ways that don’t meet the eyes and can’t be explained. We are so incredibly lucky.

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“We ADDers are wired differently. And we make the world better by being wired so. Let’s go re-wire something today.”

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My husband calls me “constantly-amazed-girl”. I love that about me.

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‎”If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away.” ~ Henry David Thoreau

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I’ve been having insomnia lately. Last night, it was coupled with anxiety. I hate it when those two hang out together!!! I found myself lying in bed stressing about how many people fall into the Grand Canyon every year. Wow.

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Beating yourself up for your deficits is so yesterday! The future is all about self-acceptance and using the gifts we were given to change the world. Duh!

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‎”I don’t like the safe options. I like things that have a 50/50 chance of me falling on my face. I like the magic when it actually comes together and people enjoy it, but the magic is only there because of the distinct possibility of failure. I find that romantic in a funny kind of way.”

~ Keira Knightley

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An over-flowing sink is not an uncommon sight in my kitchen…I just can’t make the commitment it takes to do dishes every day. The same thing over and over and over and over and over, day after day after day after day. All together now – *middle finger to the dirty dishes*.

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Sometimes it’s a beating…those days when you fight through each second to the next. Tomorrow I’ll be stronger, but today I’m exhausted.

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It’s another day…I’m feeling kind of bright-eyed and bushy-tailed this morning. Watch out!

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Does anyone else suffer from “unorganized perfectionism”? What a mix those two are! BTW, I had to look up the difference between unorganized and disorganized…”Disorganized is when something was once organized, but is no longer. Unorganized means it’s not organized, whether it was before or not makes no difference.” I’m definitely the latter…there never was or will be organization!

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Thanks to my friend, ADD Crusher for turning me on to flylady.net after witnessing the dishes in my kitchen sink. Has anyone tried this cool little program for keeping yourself organized? #1 Keep your sink polished. Looks like I have a brand-new self-improvement plan on the near horizon…

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Speaking of barely being able to make a list and then losing it anyway, I’m going to try a new tactic. I bought a little notebook, and I’m going to write every list, phone number, website, book…all of these things I write on bits of paper and then lose, in that one notebook. The notebook will be harder to lose! Right? Won’t it be harder to lose? I won’t lose the notebook, will I?! Nah. Wait…will I?

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OK…weirdest thing ever. I have a BIG issue with transitions. They’re very tough for me…kind of like a kid. I figured out when I’ve finished completing a good-sized task, instead of moving on to the next one, I hang out in fog land and am worthless for the rest of the day, BUT if I take a quick BATH in-between tasks, I’m able to jump in to the next task, piece of cake, when I get out of the tub. Crazy, huh?

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How many of you get “downloads”, where it’s almost like you have a wireless connection to the great beyond, and information or ideas just stream into your brain rendering you useless until it’s finished? Then, once it finally finishes, it takes a couple days or longer to sort out what the heck was dumped into your brain, so you’re still useless! But then (angels singing), you’re suddenly a genius!

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After reading everything on this page, who couldn’t love us? Seriously…

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Back from my self-imposed electronic media break (ahhhhh), now I need to catch up! This page is on fire!

Like · · Share · 8 June 2011 at 05:57

 

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Hard week. I had a bunch of transitions at once. Kids out of school, husband gone for a week, almost-daily swimming lessons started (anyone else have a hard time committing to ANYTHING that happens almost-daily?). At first, I thought I’d never make it. I just realized, not only am I still alive…I’m kicking this week’s A$$! Looks like the pre-dread got the best of me again! Till next time, pre-dread…

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How many of you have tried meditating to calm your brain? I love it! I once went to a ten-day meditation event. I thought I would enjoy the peace. We meditated for 11 hours a day. By day 3, I was clinically insane, and planning my middle-of-the-night escape. By day 4, I was disturbing the peace demanding the keys to my car, so let’s just start with two minutes a day! ;)

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Meditation is good for our brains, because it involves visualizing, counting, and breathing…it keeps us too busy to be able to think about anything else. Start with two minutes…you’ll be shocked at how easy it is, and how you feel after. TRY IT! Come on! Ohhh…I’m seeing a meditation challenge in the near future…

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RIIIING! RIIIING! *jumps from being startled…curses phone and whoever is calling* How many of us have a “phone phobia”? Sometimes it’s all I have not to throw it across the room when it rings. My husband reminded me the other day of how I once threw my phone right out the car window after getting too many calls in a short amount of time. WHAT DO THESE PEOPLE WANT FROM US?!?!

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I’ve noticed a lot of people commenting on how this page feels like “home” and I totally agree. I’m watching us grow and evolve and it’s amazing. All of these “quirks” that we were so ashamed of and kept hidden about ourselves, are now coming to light, and we’re finally at the point where we can start to laugh at ourselves, and let go of some of the shame. I think it’s beautiful.

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‎”On this page we are not a bunch of squiggly lines trying desperately to straighten ourselves out so that we don’t bump into or offend the triangles, circles, and squares all around us. In this room we are squiggly siblings in our own comfortable tangles of giggles and insecurity, a creative huddle of mischief makers, creative problem solvers, and…absent-minded superheroes.”

~ Kaydie Paschall, Fellow Superhero

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Went into a superhero super funk. Dangit.

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I’ve figured out that sunshine depresses me and rain makes me cheerful. WHAT IS UP WITH THAT?!?!?!?

Like · · Share · 21 June 2011 at 11:18

 

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My super-funk knocked me into the dead place. It sucks down here. I’ll just lay in a corner and bide my time gathering strength. The less I fight it, the quicker I’ll be strong enough to climb out. Stinky dead place…I loathe you.

Like · · 23 June 2011 at 09:59

 

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Well hellooo. I just climbed out of the dead place. Nice to see everyone!!!

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Out of 517 of us, surely there are loads of us in a funk right now…make sure you meet back here when you climb out!!!!

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I must have suffered from premature evacuation (why does that sound dirty?) from my funk last week!!! I slipped back in a tad, but now I’m really back. Let’s have some fun!!!!!

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero asked: I love to cook, but can’t stand to bake. My theory is that baking requires following strict rules,…

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Forgetting makes me crazy! Especially when I forget that I should NEVER listen to my husband…he’s NEVER right! At least we get some good chuckles out of it.

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I’m not a big fan of passive-aggressiveness. I like to meet things head on…no bullsh*tting here, and I like that about me so *sticks tongue out* pbbbbbbbbbbbbb!

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Husband: They’re having a pagoda behind us.

Me: What do you mean they’re having a “pagoda” behind us?

Husband: Pagoda means “garage sale” in Spanish.

Me: It does? That’s weird. Who told you that?

Husband: That’s what it says on their garage sale sign.

Me: Holy crap, Dave. Are you kidding me? That’s the name of their street!

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When I start taking my vitamins every day, I stop washing my face every night. When I start washing my face every night, I stop exercising every day. Why can’t I ever get my sh*t straight all at once?!

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‎…take today for example. I looked online to see how to fix a washer, took it apart, and fixed it, yet an hour later, I can’t find my husband’s birthday cards that I hid in a “safe” place two days ago!

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I once read that 85% of those with AD(H)D occasionally suffer from bouts of “rage”. I can relate. How about you guys???

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How many feel less weird after joining this group? If SO many of us are SO similar, we can’t be that damn weird!

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I just found my phone in the fridge. I wish I could blame it on the kids.

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I’m telling you guys…I’m not just blowing smoke up your wazoos, meditation is VERY beneficial for us!

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Why is it that I can buy a gift or card a week in advance, but it never gets mailed until a week after the event? WHY? WHY? WHY?

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I now know why I don’t like malls and shopping in general. I had to call my husband to rescue my daughter and I because I couldn’t find the car. I told my husband on the phone, “either I’m a dumb ass or the car was stolen”…turns out it was the first one. AND THE ADVENTURES CONTINUE…

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We love our friends and family, but unless they have AD(H)D, there is no way in H-E-Double-Hockey-Sticks that they’ll ever have any clue of what we go through. Sometimes they think they’re helping us with their advice and tips, when they’re actually making things worse. They “attack” so we withdraw.

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I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.

~Albert Einstein

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If you met someone just like you, you would REALLY like them, wouldn’t you? Let’s chew on that for a bit…

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My email procrastination just came back to bite me in the butt. 1440 unread email messages. *sits on hands to keep from throwing laptop through the window*

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Back in town…WOW! You guys blew this page up…I LOVE IT! Now, does anyone have any ideas and how I can rifle through all of the posts? The “notifications” links are not ADD-friendly when there are a ton of posts to read!!! I wish they would delete as I clicked on them!!! Get on that, Facebook!

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I’m still overwhelmed (and procrastinating because of it) by the amount of notifications from when I was out of town. I feel like I need to respond to each and every one of you, but I just keep getting mixed up on the notification links. I’m just going to go down the page instead, so if I don’t respond when a response is needed, don’t take offense…I’m ADD. ;)

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‎”If I had my life to live over again, I’d try to make more mistakes next time. I would relax. I’d be sillier than I have been on this trip. I would climb more mountains, swim more rivers and watch more sunsets. I would have more actual troubles and less imaginary ones. Oh, I’ve had my moments, and if I had to do it over again, I’d have more of them. In fact, I’d try to have nothing else, just moments, one after another… I would pick more daisies.” – Nadine Stair (at age 89)

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Hi everyone!!! I’m in Portland having some “back-to-nature” time with a favorite friend. Soooo therapeutic for the brain. Maybe we can all try to “unplug” this weekend?! It really does a body good. Well, the wine tasting hasn’t hurt either…I’ll be home on Monday, can’t wait to read what I’ve missed! Cheers!

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Back from my trip…that means school is just around the corner. I want to cry with relief (no offense to my rugrats, but they’re nuts). Am I the only one that has felt like I was paralyzed or stagnating this summer? This page and my writing has really suffered due to my inability to focus on other things when the kids are home…seriously looking forward to being Stacey and not just Mom again. WHERE DID I GO?

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I love my sweet husband, but when will he ever figure out that he CAN NOT TOUCH MY PILES?! He doesn’t believe me that I know every stinking thing in those piles. “A file cabinet? Are you nuts? I can’t find sh*t in file cabinets!”

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‎”Not all who wander are lost.”

~J. R. R. Tolkien

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I don’t mind grocery shopping, but I can barely stand putting the groceries away when I get home. It takes me longer to do that than to do the driving to the store, the shopping itself, and the drive home! F-O-C-U-S STACEY! *remembers that the groceries are still only half put away and rushes to the kitchen*

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I was thinking (watch out!) that not only does my mind crave stimulation, but my taste buds do too. Hot, sour, vinegars, garlic, black pepper, jalapeno, carbonation…those are my favorites. Sweets, I can leave behind, but don’t take away my jalapeno pizza dipped in red wine vinegar!

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

How did I get to sitting in front of the computer to answer posts with a towel on my head? Seriously…let me at least get a little presentable, and try to focus long enough to make it to the bathroom to hang it up (where I will later find it on the bedroom floor or bed, causing a damp area that will annoy the crap out of me until it dries).

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I was on my home from a road trip a couple of weeks ago…I had to pee SOOO bad. I was thankful to finally see a sign for a rest stop a 1/2 mile away. You can imagine my surprise/disgust/amusement/full bladder when I realized that somewhere in that 1/2 of a mile, I forgot to take the exit.

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One last family road trip to go. Leaving today to show the kids the Alamo. If it seems like all of the summer vacations have been in the last month of summer, you are correct. That’s a direct result of my inability to pre-plan at the beginning of summer like most (non-add) people do. *(August 1st – “HOLY CRAP! We need to take some summer vacations!”)*

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I often think to myself “Yeah, you’re doing a good job, but you can do better.” I wish I could just hit pause after the “you’re doing a good job” part and enjoy the taste of THAT for a bit.

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For a girl that has a love of humanity, I sure have a low tolerance for people.

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ADD + PMS = Trouble with a capital four-letter word. Now where did I put that damn “Scream-Free Parenting” book?

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

To keep my anxiety level down I don’t use overhead lights in the house, just table lamps. It makes a world of difference! Make sure the light bulb color you choose is the yellow tone, as that is also calming compared to the white/blue. Oh…and of course, please buy cfls. Save the earth!

Like · · Share · 25 August 2011 at 07:58

 

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Tell us what you perceive to be your worst, most embarrassing trait, and I GUARANTEE you, most of us are the same way, which leads me to believe that maybe they aren’t such terrible traits after all. Maybe we just don’t understand them like we could.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Which ADD issues are affecting you most right this moment? As much as I love a good free-for-all, I really do need that structure I hate so much.

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ADHD = Attention Dialed to Higher Dimensions. ♥

Thanks to Robert Higgins!

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A quote from my book, “Here’s to Not Catching Our Hair on Fire”, coming January 2012 (shameless plug), “I’ve finally come to the conclusion that what I want to do “when I grow up”, will be a constantly evolving idea, and I simply have to evolve with it. That way, when it’s all said and done, I will have done everything I’ve ever wanted to do, instead of wasting time and energy focusing on finding that one elusive thing that will never appear.”

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I’ve been asked more than once, if I had it to do all over and it was an option, would I choose a “normal” brain to live my life. My response is always…”Are you kidding me? I see more, feel more, taste more, smell more, think more, hear more, know more…what an amazing, colorful, layered world I live in that “normal” brains will never see. That’s like asking a meat-eater if he would want to give up his steak for a lifetime of Spam!” A weird analogy for a vegetarian, but hey, I’m weird.

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Dave didn’t see me when he walked into the garage, so I started making ridiculous animal noises on the other side of the car, never dreaming that he would start panicking. He began yelling HEY…HEY! in a deep voice (trying to scare the creature, I assume) and then started screaming “Help, Staaaaace” as he pounded on the door to the house, which unfortunately for him, was locked. I nearly wet my pants…AD(H)D mischief at its finest.

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I’ve decided to stop using exclamations so much when I write. They’re in almost every sentence. Why am I yelling all the time? Someone tell me to pipe down!

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Tax-free weekend starts tomorrow. I’d rather pay the 8.25% to not deal with all of the extra people shopping. WHY DIDN’T I PLAN AHEAD???

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Non-Linearity of Thought – The reason we get the weird look followed by “I’m not following you”.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I have an @sshole virus on my computer (due to not keeping my anti-everythings up to date), and I have spent 7 hours trying to fix the issue (hyperfocus) to no avail. I won’t give up, though. I was just sitting here thinking, I bet the jacko that created this virus has AD(H)D (stimulation). :)

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

True Story – My husband and I were driving down a pretty busy street the other day. I was yapping about something and happened to look over to see a freaking chicken in someone’s front yard. No kidding. I lost all thought at that moment. Consequently the book byline has been changed to “A Tale of Living with Giftedness and Attention Deficit – Oh Look! A Chicken!”, as that’s exactly what came out of my mouth.

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What is your passion right now? Don’t use family, kids or friends. I’m talking about something that you do for YOU. A hobby, an interest…whatever puts you straight into flow…the best place for our wacky brains.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

‎”I love my dust. It shows I had something better to do.” ~ Anonymous

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At the kids’ school there are hopscotch courts permanently painted on the sidewalks that all of the kids trodden over daily. Today I noticed as they passed over the courts, a lot of kids never even looked down. Some looked down, but then glanced back up, continuing to walk. SOME, however looked down, and without missing a beat, hopped and jumped through the court, always keeping pace to those that were simply walking. I bet we were those hopscotchers.

Like · · Share · 29 August 2011 at 17:25

 

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This place has officially transitioned from a mere FB page, to a group of super-smart, intuitive, loving, hilarious friends. My dream is coming true…

Like · · Share · 30 August 2011 at 09:02

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

‎”Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” ~ C.S. Lewis

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AD(H)D is having a knot in the back of your hair and cutting it out with scissors instead of working it out with a comb. Yes, I just did that.

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Need an excuse to procrastinate? The book site is up, you can check it out and let me know what you think.  http://www.staceyturis.com

Like · · Share · 31 August 2011 at 11:04

 

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Well, I’ve gotten myself in a pickle where I have 83 notifications to read, and am too overwhelmed to do so. I’m going to have to start fresh, so if there is something you posted that I didn’t respond to, it means I didn’t see it due to my mad procrastination skills so feel free to say “YO STACEY – I SAID…” – sometimes you just have to knock some sense into me.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

How many of you would like to do a 21 day exercise challenge?!? I loved that idea – which superhero shared? For 21 days we walk for 20 minutes a day. I’ll design a little award badge to post on our pages for those that complete it.  STARTS TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 6th. I’ll be reminding you, of course…when my husband reminds me to remind you.  XO

Like · · Share · 1 September 2011 at 08:13

 

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I just tried to turn on a lamp switch with my left hand backwards, and I couldn’t figure out which the hell way to turn it.

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‎…and just put on an oven mitt to start doing the dishes.

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The “discussions” and “notes” links on the left don’t do a whole lot to remind me that they are there. They may as well be in a filing cabinet.

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Sensory issues + underwear = bad mood. I’m going to the Dr. today and thought I should actually wear underwear. Why? I have no idea…just seemed appropriate, even though I’m just getting my back cracked. These things are pissing me off. Does the ER team REALLY care if you have underwear on if you get into an accident?!? I’m thinking if it ever happens they’re just going to have to see my ass!

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It must be hard living with ADHD and OCD. The ADHD is like, “Oh, look, a cat!” and then the OCD is like, “CLEAN IT.” – Thanks Michelle!

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Am I the only person that has a hard time reading the words you have to type in to confirm you are human? It all looks like scribble to me.

Like · · Share · 3 September 2011 at 07:33

 

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Those of us searching for perfectionism in ourselves are completely missing the point of life.

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DAY 1 of the 21-day fitness challenge!!! Move your body for 20 minutes by walking, dancing, running, skipping, scooting…it doesn’t matter, just shake that @ss! For those that meet the challenge, there will be a cool badge to add to your FB page. Are you still reading this? GO!!!!!

Like · · Share · 6 September 2011 at 09:22

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I planned on taking my medicine. I walked over to take my medicine. I unscrewed the cap to take my medicine. I was distracted while taking my medicine and have no idea if I actually ended up taking my medicine.

Like · · Share · 6 September 2011 at 09:34

 

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I have to laugh at myself because when I get thiiiiis close to finishing a project…maybe one or two things left to do, I go into a holding pattern. Paralyzed. I don’t want to finish it. Maybe I don’t want it to end (BUT I’M DYING FOR IT TO END). Maybe, I’m…JUST FINISH THE DAMN PROJECT STACEY!

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I FINISHED THE PROJECT!!!!! *booty dance commences*

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”You must carry a chaos inside you to give birth to a dancing star.” ~Nietzsche

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…the minute I feel the pressure of having to make money at something, it takes away all of the fun. I just consider this my job. Teaching people about themselves, and sharing the message of self-acceptance…it’s a beautiful job. No money, but it makes me happy. :)

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Day 4 of the 21-day fitness challenge. How are you staying motivated??? I walked the rugrats to school, worked in the herb gardens and did a bit of yoga before bed. I love not feeling like a piece of crap at the end of the day. :)

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My fingers always want to type “superherp” instead of superhero…I’m tempted to change the name for lazy purposes, but it may be a turn off.

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Which are you? I’m guessing visual-spatial. :)

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Love this! “Angry people want you to see how powerful they are…loving people want you to see how powerful  You are.” – Chief Red Eagle

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This head fog is a pain in the butt. I love how all of a sudden I can look down at myself and realize that I haven’t groomed my toenails and fingernails OR plucked my eyebrows for a month. Where have I been? Why didn’t I notice the little toe hairs growing?!? It’s a miracle my teeth get brushed sometimes.

Like · · Share · 12 September 2011 at 10:26

 

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Am I the only one that can walk into a public restroom and then have no idea whether to go right or left when I walk back out? Does anyone else get instantly nervous when you have to find the front door of a business/restaurant, etc. that you’ve never visited before?

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Day 7 of the 21-day fitness challenge! Are you guys still hanging in there??? KEEP IT UP! You only have to move for 20 minutes a day to stay in the challenge. If you missed a day, tack the time on to another one! YOU CAN DO IT!

Like · · Share · 12 September 2011 at 11:27

 

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A little note to all of the superheroes, with love…

Dear Wacky Ones – you are incredibly gifted, intuitive, highly-intelligent, and “normal” people won’t always understand the world you live in.  That’s OK.  Only you know what choices are right for you.  Always follow your gut and your heart.  It is impossible for you to fail – you have no choice but to accomplish great things in your life.  Be proud of the amazing being you are.  Blazing trails is a lonely job, and it’s not up to you to “wait” for others to catch up.  Understand that everything you see negative about you is actually a positive, and the very things that will allow you to accomplish those great things you are obviously destined for.  Let you be you without the guilt and shame.  You’ve always known you were special…trust that feeling.   Laugh at yourself while teaching others.  Go get em’ tiger, keep on truckin’, and finally, may the Force be with you.  I think you’re covered.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Do you suffer from insta-pissed-itis?  I’ve been known once or twice or a thousand times to lose my cool. I call it getting insta-pissed, and when it happens, it’s not pretty. Bouts of rage are common in 85% of people with AD(H)D…

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You know that AD(H)D intuition I refer to? LISTEN TO IT! It’s a HUGE trick we can pull our of our superhero bag of goodies!  I have a million stories where I’ve used my superhero intuition to save myself from unsavory situations. AD(H)D intuition is a real thing, and you can learn to develop it through meditation.  So…

Like · · Share · 14 September 2011 at 08:45

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I tried to make myself feel better tonight by binging on peanut butter sandwiches and smoked Gouda. It worked.

Like · · Share · 14 September 2011 at 19:04

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Why does it offend my husband that I use a chair as my closet? It’s not like he ever sits in the chair!

Like · · Share · 15 September 2011 at 06:55

 

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My book is almost here! “A belly-laugh inducing romp through a life so convoluted and chaotic you know it has to be true, Stacey Turis’s debut gives a voice to the genius yet tormented souls suffering from giftedness, ADHD, or a combination of both (a condition known as twice-exceptional) who are too afraid to speak.”  http://www.staceyturis.com

Like · · Share · 15 September 2011 at 14:17

 

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Just wondering if my propensity towards “letting the pans soak” is an AD(H)D thing…

Like · · Share · 15 September 2011 at 18:52

 

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Hi. My name is Stacey and I have trouble keeping friends.

I’m in my own little world, but it’s OK. They know me here.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

‎”Anyone can become angry — that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way — this is not easy.” ~ Aristotle

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‎…speaking of closets and our inability to use them, I thought that by making my closet bigger, I would actually want to hang my clothes up. I did what any AD(H)Der would do. I took a hammer to the wall between my closet and a small spare room to make a gigantic closet. I got the racks hung in the new closet, but never replaced the carpet I tore up, and the missing wall looks the Incredible Hulk busted through it just seconds ago.

Like · · Share · 16 September 2011 at 12:14

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

HOLY CRAP!!!! I forgot about the 21-day fitness challenge!!!!! ARE YOU KIDDING ME? Anyone still doing it? Anyone know what the hell day we’re on? Whose idea was it for ME to be the reminder? Go shake those booties! I’m going to try to shake my a$$ hard enough that those apparent cobwebs fall out of my ears. That’s why my daughter calls me the “forgetter”. I’m a piece of work, I tell ya. Who does that? ALL OF US!!!! WOOOOO HOOOOOOO!

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I really hate it when they paint new lines on the road that follow a different path from the old lines on the road. Even though the new lines are brighter, my brain says “FOLLOW THEM BOTH!!” I am constantly getting confused at intersections trying to figure out which lanes are going left, which goes straight, is that light for me? What the hell is a yellow arrow? They didn’t have those last week! Which lane is mine across the intersection??? – it’s like an immediate panic and freeze. ARGH!

Like · · Share · 19 September 2011 at 09:04

 

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‎”I see myself as an intelligent, sensitive human, with a soul of a clown which forces me to blow it at the most important moments.” ~Jim Morrison

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

People think that because I have ADHD, they need to give me EXTRA-ADVANCED notice of something that’s coming up. That’s not how I work at all! Call me the day of, and I’m more likely to do something, even step out of my comfort zone if I fancy it at that moment. Advanced notice just gives me time for the pre-commitment dread. I’ll have myself talked out of it before it ever rolls around.

Like · · Share · 19 September 2011 at 10:57

 

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It was one of those days. I went to our city’s Environmental Awards today…and lost…but not before popping a flower shaped pat of butter in my mouth thinking it was a mint, and then exiting the awards ceremony early by walking into a closet instead of out the door.

Like · · Share · 20 September 2011 at 16:27

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Ughh. Too much going on. Became overwhelmed. Slipped into a superfunk. I’m going to roll around in the funk for a bit, but I’ll be out shortly.

Like · · Share · 22 September 2011 at 19:01

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

The city just asked me to be an Environmental Mentor for the Public Schools. That’s cool, and gives me yet another random thing to add to my resume…right under Big Foot Researcher.

Like · · Share · 23 September 2011 at 11:08

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

‎*magic hands* Something neeew will be revealed on Monday…not that you’ll remember by then. Hell, I may not even remember by then. *suddenly disappears* (but ends up in broom closet)

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

DAY 21 of the fitness challenge!!! CONGRATULATIONS to all of you that succeeded! Please post this badge to your page, and brag your asses off…you deserve it! For those of you that had life get in the way, don’t beat yourself up…join us in the next one!

Like · · Share · 27 September 2011 at 08:35

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

So now I’m getting zero notifications from FB. Did anyone pay attention to the emails etc. that told us how to fix that? I knew I should have paid attention, I just didn’t feel like it right then. ;)

Like · · Share · 27 September 2011 at 08:41

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I’m feeling a little bit frisky today…let’s talk about our psychic abilities!!! *waves freak flag back and forth*

Like · · Share · 27 September 2011 at 12:00

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Speaking of the wacky, how many of you get weird high-pitched sounds in your ear every so often?

Like · · Share · 27 September 2011 at 15:24

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

We’ve touched on the subject of our intuition and empathy. Some people are scared to even talk/think about this stuff because of their upbringing, religious or otherwise, but in my opinion, it’s simply one of our senses that has been put to the back burner as we’ve evolved…pretty much a sixth sense. If you put it in that category, it seems kind of ridiculous to think that it’s anything but how we were made. YOU MEAN THAT LADY CAN SMELL THINGS THROUGH HER NOSE? BURN HER AT THE STAKES!

Like · · Share · 28 September 2011 at 13:49

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

My daughter gave me a note yesterday with a little ditty that I think we all need to hear on occasion. “Don’t worry if your tasks are small and rewards are few, remember that the mighty oak was once a nut like you!” OK…I guess I’ll keep on keepin’ on, then. Wait. I think she just called me a nut.

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I’m exhausted from just trying to keep my sh*t together today…and my husband washed my jeans, which means they feel tight, so that’s distracting/annoying…though secretly I’m grateful that someone’s doing the laundry around here! I feel like pig pen with a bunch of crap just swirling around my head. AUGHHHHHHHHHH! SAVE MEEEEE FROM MEEEEEEEEEE!

Like · · Share · 29 September 2011 at 09:44

 

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Dave: Have a good cry and get back on the saddle.

Me: I’m f*cking SICK of the saddle!

Like · · Share · 1 October 2011 at 12:35

 

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I guess I’m going through a little something right now. The book is getting close to coming out, I’m launching something on Monday…suddenly that familiar fear of failure is gurgling up, and it makes me feel less in control. I need to take back the upper hand. Is my fear of failure just a cleverly disguised “fear of the unknown”? And if it IS fear of the unknown, am I afraid because I’m not sure if I’ll be able to manage the “unknown”?

Like · · Share · 1 October 2011 at 13:12

 

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“We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.” ~Dr. Seuss

Like · · Share · 3 October 2011 at 07:50

 

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Quick…best thing about today? Worst? My best was grounding myself by making lasagna and banana bread and finally coming down from space after that two-week download. Worst was coming down from space after that two-week download!

Like · · Share · 4 October 2011 at 15:40

 

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It’s true…the people on here are amazing. Profound, articulate, genius, intuitive, sometimes sad, sometimes happy, a melting pot of what we collectively are. I couldn’t be more proud of what we have here.

Like · · Share · 4 October 2011 at 18:34

 

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How many of you feel like you are here for a purpose, but can’t quite grasp what it is? It’s almost like it’s just out of reach…

Like · · Share · 4 October 2011 at 20:29

 

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One of my favorite quotes of all time…“Here’s to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes…the ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can’t do is ignore them because they change things. They push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.” ~Steve Jobs

Like · · Share · 6 October 2011 at 08:24

 

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Oh great…I just started soaking another pan. The last one was ridiculous even for my standards – 5 days of soaking in the sink before I ran it in the dishwasher (2 days) and then back to the sink soaking for 3 or 4 days. I finally put the pan and myself out of our misery by washing the damn thing.

Like · · Share · 6 October 2011 at 12:25

 

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Happy Friday! Finally! What crazy plans are you guys cooking up for this weekend? I’m thinking some serious alone time is in order. Am I the only wack-job that occasionally just needs to sit on the couch, looking out the window so my brain can just run loose and process things? I did it the other day for nearly two hours and I felt like a new girl afterwards!

Like · · Share · 7 October 2011 at 08:02

 

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‎”Be yourself, everyone else is taken.” ~Oscar Wilde

Like · · Share · 10 October 2011 at 08:22

 

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Columbus was no hero. He was an arrogant, greedy, masochistic, villainous native-slave-trader and exporter. Today, I raise my middle finger to you, Christopher Columbus…you and your stupid ships.

Like · · Share · 10 October 2011 at 10:04

 

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I never know the date. Not only do I not know the date, if someone came up to me and asked me to guess, in my answer I could be anywhere from five days before or after the actual date. Time? What time?

Like · · Share · 10 October 2011 at 12:09

 

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We don’t want to scare our plain-brained friends with what goes on in our heads! Not that there’s anything wrong with having a plain ol’ brain of course…I mean, I wouldn’t want one, but that’s just me.

Like · · Share · 11 October 2011 at 07:47

 

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I know I’m always bugging you guys about exercise, but it’s SO important for our gerbil-wheel brains! It’s hard when we don’t have a deadline pushing us to do something, and I’ve figured out if I get my yoga (or whatever you fancy for exercise) in when I’m waiting for something else (i.e., kid in the tub, tea heating in the microwave, commercials on tv), I can just slam it out without all of that pre-exercise or whatever, anxiety. It’s better than waiting around for something, and you might even get some abs poking out. ;)

Like · · Share · 11 October 2011 at 10:50

 

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An email I got from a friend today…the subject was “Oh look! A chicken!” The body was “No, seriously. In the parking lot at Staples. Weird.”

Like · · Share · 11 October 2011 at 16:29

 

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I ‘m reading an ADHD book, and something in there really struck me. It said when we find something that grabs our interest, we become so passionate, learning everything about it, we become instant experts! What is something you’ve become an “instant expert” on?!?

Like · · Share · 13 October 2011 at 11:48

 

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How many of you can hear music in your head within white noise? For example, when I’m running a bath, I’ll unconsciously hear and listen to a piece of music for a while before I realize 1. that I’m listening to it & 2. there is no music playing.

Like · · Share · 15 October 2011 at 13:18

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I’m a huge fan of aromatherapy. I even have a line of aromatherapeutic dog sprays, that I haven’t done anything with. The sprays are amazing, the labels are fabulous, the bottles are chic, and…

Like · · Share · 15 October 2011 at 14:18

 

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It’s not a privilege to know others. Know yourself. That’s a privilege.

Like · · Share · 15 October 2011 at 17:54

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

How many of you have issues with affection? When my husband tries to hold my hand, I immediately get itchy armpits from the stress…and he smells fine, I promise.

Like · · Share · 17 October 2011 at 08:34

 

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I leave for an AD(H)D conference in Seattle on Thursday and I haven’t even reserved my rental car yet. Of course, why would I when I have an entire day left to do it? And laundry…and pack…and figure out when the heck my flights are (who did I book that through?) and…

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We’re all stars. We just need the sky to shine in…

Like · · Share · 19 October 2011 at 08:44

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

If my husband was a REAL assistant, I would have had HIM make all of these horrible plane and car reservations, and then print them out for me for my little travel folder, and then get directions to everywhere I’ll be going (Space Needle?) and then print them out in chronological order, so there is NO THINKING involved for me…that’s how I like it. But wait, I’m a control freak that never lets anyone take the reigns. Ok. OK…I’ll give him props for making my decaf every morning.

Like · · Share · 19 October 2011 at 09:56

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Last post from me until Monday…maybe. Probably. Anyway, who besides me gets totally offended by having to celebrate holidays? I love Halloween, but the others just piss me off because I feel like I’m being forced. AND, I think New Year’s Eve is the biggest crock ever…I finally stopped going to the parties, because it was always such a let down compared to my high expectations.

Like · · Share · 20 October 2011 at 15:09

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

In two weeks I leave for a 4-day Big Foot expedition. I love that stuff! It seems since I’ve had kids, I’ve stopped going on my own adventures, and I can tell it affects me…I’m an explorer, adventurer, investigator by heart! What is something you want to do that you never make time for???

Like · · Share · 21 October 2011 at 10:21

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

‎”Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Like · · Share · 21 October 2011 at 11:49

 

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As ADHDers, we are lacking in Dopamine. That’s why we have a hard time getting motivated. Without Dopamine, the feeling of “wanting to” is diminished and often non-existent. This week, we’re going to be talking about ways to boost your dopamine levels. First order of business…GET OFF YOUR BUTTS! Exercise is the BEST way to boost your levels. Not only does it boost your levels, it causes your brain to sprout NEW receptors which means even more dopamine. Before you know it, you’ll be a walking ball of motivated sunshine!

Like · · Share · 25 October 2011 at 09:52

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Dear Normals: Please stop taking my behavior so personally. This may come as a surprise, but it’s not always about you.  Warm Regards.

Like · · Share · 25 October 2011 at 13:10

 

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I’ve successfully bathed my sweater belt in the toilet for the 3rd time in 2 weeks. This can’t go on.

Like · · Share · 27 October 2011 at 09:20

 

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‎”Do not apologize…bend the world to you.” TotallyADDs, Rick Green at the Seattle conference last weekend. Spread the message!

Like · · Share · 28 October 2011 at 07:53

 

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I’ve not yet unpacked from the Seattle trip and now packing for a 4-day Big Foot expedition, complete with my snake-bite kit which horridly includes a scalpel and “instructions”…have I ever told you that I never read the “instructions”?

Like · · Share · 1 November 2011 at 12:38

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Your to-do list is overwhelming and now you can barely look at it without suffering from chest pains…just do ONE thing on your list. That’s it. Commit to ONE thing. There is a release of chemicals when you accomplish something which leads to your wanting to accomplish more. Who knows…maybe you’ll get to two things on your list today, but for now, commit to just one!

Like · · Share · 2 November 2011 at 08:01

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Hiii everyone!!!! WOW. I had the most amazing trip and marked something off my bucket list! As I was searching for Big Foot in the middle of the night in the middle of a forest with a group of bad-ass females using Military-grade technology at the highest focus and sensory awareness I’ve ever experienced in my life…I couldn’t help but get pissed off at the military’s ignorant rules regarding AD(H)D soldiers!!!! My focus and concentration was so intense (medicine-free), I could have burned a hole through a tree with only my gaze. That’s how superheroes roll.

Like · · Share · 8 November 2011 at 08:33

 

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I’m already starting to get overwhelmed by the impending doom…I mean holidays. What are some good coping skills you’ve uncovered to deal with the most stress-filled time of the year? Ropes, knives and guns don’t count!

Like · · Share · 9 November 2011 at 08:27

 

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“Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass. It’s about learning how to dance in the rain.” ~Vivian Green

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The kids have a school skating party tonight…my pre-event social anxiety should kick in in about 4 hours. It should stop after I get there, but then I’ll do the weirdest thing…whenever I’m out of my house and at a social event (especially with lots of noise), I’ll spend every second wishing I was just back home and not dealing with the over-stimulation. WHY CAN’T I JUST HAVE FUN?

Like · · Share · 10 November 2011 at 09:55

 

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OY VEY! I still haven’t unpacked from last weekend, and those evil piles that were already started, forced me to add more things to them. I tried to resist, but they kept calling my name when I needed to put something away. “Staaaaaaaceeeeeyyyy, you don’t have to put that wet towel away….just throw it on top of me…I’m a pile…that’s my point…Staaaaaaceeey”. FINE PILE! YOU WANT SOME OF THIS??? *throws wet towel, a star wars figurine, a hairband, some beads, a few large cracker crumbs (big enough to pick up again), an empty cup, and a Monster High doll on top of the pile and stomps away, cursing*

Like · · Share · 13 November 2011 at 12:28

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I got the formatted interior of the book, “Here’s to Not Catching Our Hair on Fire” back last week, so they are just waiting for my approval…problem is that I’ve read the book 14,000 times for editing purposes and I can’t make myself look at it. I’ve got to, but I can’t, but I’ve got to, but I can’t, but I must keep on keepin’ on, because it’s weighing me down and funking me out. I’m paralyzed, but I must push through. RAWWWWWWWRRRRRRRRRRRRR. That was my Incredible Hulk yell…just another way to procrastinate. OK…I’m going to go read, so I can feel happy-go-lucky when I’m finished instead of pissed off at the world. RAWWWWWWWWWRRRRRRRRRR!

Like · · Share · 14 November 2011 at 08:54

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

‎3 days on lockdown trying to get the book finalized…checking in with you shiny chickens…now back to work! See you in a few!!!! A few what? I have no idea…could be minutes hours or days…can’t. hold. this. focus. much. longer.

Like · · Share · 17 November 2011 at 08:47

 

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WHAT THE HELL! I should not be driving. How can one girl miss so many turns in one day???? *oh shoooooot…was that Kirkpatrick street? Damn. Oh No! Did I just miss I-90? Damn. Have I already passed College street? Shiiiiit.*

Like · · Share · 17 November 2011 at 16:41

 

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Holy moly. Well, last week sucked @ss…I am NOT gonna lie. BUT, I managed to launch some big issues right off my shoulders, and am now looking forward to being my usual-crazy instead of crazy-crazy. The great thing is when you get into crazy-crazy mode, usual-crazy doesn’t seem that crazy at all!

Like · · Share · 20 November 2011 at 13:26

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I love the sound of thunder…it somehow validates the turmoil I constantly feel inside.

Like · · Share · 21 November 2011 at 17:20

 

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I’m going to have a good attitude about the holidays, I’m going to have a good attitude about the holidays, I’m going to have a good attitude about the holidays, I’m going to have a good attitude about the holidays, I’m going to have a good attitude about the holidays, I’m going to have a good attitude about the holidays, I’m going to have a good attitude about the holidays, I’m going to have a good attitude about the holidays…

Like · · Share · 22 November 2011 at 09:45

 

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I’m a glass half-full kind of girl, which is good since my brain works kind of wonky, otherwise I’d put Debbie Downer to shame.

Like · · Share · 22 November 2011 at 16:20

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

The holiday sheep mentality and over-consumerism kills me right now.

Like · · Share · 25 November 2011 at 11:58

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

We all know cigarettes are addictive, but did you know that cigarettes are even MORE addictive to a person with ADHD, due to being a stimulant? Sucks and SUCKS!

Like · · Share · 26 November 2011 at 13:59

 

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SUPER HOLIDAY FUNK-A-RAMA. I can’t take this sh*t. Wake me when it’s all over.

Like · · Share · 27 November 2011 at 17:32

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

After a week plus off of my darn meds, I just took them and waiting for them to kick in so I can get things accomplished today. Accomplishments are the only cure for my funk, and I’m wondering how much my week of floating in space attributed to it. ONWARD AND UPWARD…Let’s kick some Monday butt. Who’s in?!?!?!? *begins a highly-offensive shiny chicken dance*

Like · · Share · 28 November 2011 at 07:42

 

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Trying to exercise my way through this funk. I just did Yoga Bootcamp. I’m now thiiiiiiis close to puking.

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‎”Sucking at something is the first step toward being sorta good at something.”

~Jake the dog, Adventure Time

Like · · Share · 30 November 2011 at 07:56

 

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Good timber does not grow with ease; the stronger the wind, the stronger the trees. ~Douglas Malloch

Like · · Share · 2 December 2011 at 06:13

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I agree wholeheartedly that my reactions to the holidays are completely ridiculous. I also know that if I don’t take cover and work through them my own way, the funk will not go away on January 1st, and I refuse to be angst-ridden for any new beginnings, so fetal position in the corner through December, it is!

Like · · Share · 12 December 2011 at 08:26

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Sometimes I wonder if I feel like this around the holidays because I’m overwhelmed, or because everyone keeps telling me it’s the season to be happy, which makes me want to do the opposite. You never know. I’m that weird.

Like · · Share · 12 December 2011 at 08:43

 

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How many of us are having a hard time with the “afternoon slump” where we get really tired? At around 1pm, there is a natural lull in our circadian rhythm that signals the body to release melatonin, which makes us drowsy. We can prevent that dip by exposing our bodies to 10 minutes of sunlight at noon. Sun not shining where you live? Get outside anyway…our bodies will still be able to absorb the vitamin D necessary!

Like · · Share · 14 December 2011 at 08:50

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I sent my daughter to her room. She tried to debate it, until I finally said enough and started counting. She then asked, “Well, what did I do?”, and I’ll be darned if I could remember.

Like · · Share · 20 December 2011 at 09:47

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

That Elf on a Shelf is not very ADD-Friendly. Besides that, for 25 bucks, the Elf should remember to move himself.

Like · · Share · 22 December 2011 at 09:25

 

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I’m a perfectionist born and raised. That being said, just because I’m a perfectionist doesn’t mean that everything I do is perfect. Not at all. Not even close. Not even sometimes…

Like · · Share · 22 December 2011 at 13:55

 

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Happy Holidays Super Heroes!!! May your tights not get tighter… XO

Like · · Share · 25 December 2011 at 09:59

 

In honor of the holidays being next to over, and me being in such a great mood because of it, I’m going to share what I think must be the weirdest quirk I have, that I’ve never shared with ANYONE…(drum roll)…whenever I’m in a store, and I mean ANY store, I always think the employees think I’m stealing. Always. Can someone analyze that one for me? Please? It can’t be healthy.

Like · · Share · 26 December 2011 at 15:40

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Happy New Year to the lot of you, and please don’t drink and drive…little Timmy in the car ahead of you has big plans for his life, and only HE should be allowed to screw those up. XO

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My Book is Free Today!

I’ve found that a lot of people think it’s cool when they get things for free.  Hey look, I’m not trying to make a million bucks – I’m trying to make a difference.  SO, in the interest of saving the world, please enjoy a free Kindle copy of my book, Here’s to Not Catching Our Hair on Fire: An Absent-Minded Tale of Life with Giftedness and Attention Deficit – Oh Look! A Chicken! ~ST

If you don’t have a Kindle, you can download a free app for your phone, tablet or PC here

This offer for a bazillion dollars off the retail price is good today and tomorrow (whatever the date is) only!

Here's to Not Catching Our Hair on Fire

Did you know that if you forget to pay a speeding ticket you WILL get arrested—in front of your kids, the neighbors—the dog—and anyone else who happens to be there? True story. And the thing is, Stacey Turis has a million of them, and she imparts these and other nuggets of wisdom to offer others suffering from ADHD some hope in knowing that they are not alone.

A belly-laugh inducing romp through a life so convoluted and chaotic you know it has to be true, Stacey Turis’s debut gives a voice to the genius yet tormented souls suffering from giftedness, ADHD, or a combination of both (a condition known as twice-exceptional) who are too afraid to speak.

Chronicling her life journey from a state of self-loathing to one of self-acceptance, the stories flow timelessly, always incorporating the resulting lessons and reflections gleaned from each adventure. Including both the tragic, stomach churning details of a horrifically abusive time in her childhood to comic adventures such as deciding to dye her hair plum the day before an important presentation to a bank only to have it turn out purple, her life has never suffered from a dull moment. Though she often thought Karma was the reason she found herself in so many “pickles,” a friend explained to her that when you put yourself out in the world more than anyone else, it’s really just a matter of statistics. Lucky for Turis and the rest of us, putting herself out there all these years allows us all to look at life through her pair of less-struggle-more-sass glasses.

With over three hundred million people suffering from ADHD worldwide and experiencing many of the same debilitating symptoms, Turis’ goal is to share her experiences so that others afflicted can rid themselves of the shame of hiding their behavior. A rip-roaring and bracingly honest look at a twice-exceptional life, Here’s to Not Catching Our Hair on Fire: An Absent-Minded Tale of Life with Giftedness and Attention Deficit—Oh Look! A Chicken! turns the rational on its head in a rollicking depiction of a life that seems to be constantly going off the rails.


50 (or so) Great Things About Having AD(H)D!

I feel like I should get this list printed on an index card and pass it out to people I meet – blind them with my magical side first.  “LOOK HOW COOL I AM?  SEE?  I REALLY AM COOL!  PAY NO ATTENTION TO THAT CRAZY LADY BEHIND THE CURTAIN!”  ~ST

excerpt from the poster written by Bob Seay.

Entertain your friends with witty one-liners and sharp come backs.

Insomnia makes for more time to stay up and surf the net!

The drive of Hyper-Focus

Sparkling personality

Drop names like Edison, Einstein, Walt Disney and Beethoven in conversations.

Can see all of your worldly possessions at one time…because they are all over the floor.

ENTHUSIASTIC

innovative

A strong sense of what is FAIR

Willing to take a Risk

Alert

Eager, creative, provides original ideas or isn’t afraid to steal them.

Make far reaching analogies that no one else understands.  Write them off as “Deep Thoughts”.

Theoretical

Abstract Thinkers

Spontaneous

Always Hopeful

Keeps meetings lively

The Mind of a Pentium – with only 2Mgs of RAM

Aesthetically oriented

Pleasantly and constantly surprised by finding clothing you had forgotten about.

Able to tie seemingly unrelated ideas together.

Funny

Able to see The Big Picture while others stumble around in the dark.

Independent

Demands to know WHY?

Last of the ROMANTICS

Has a wide variety of interests

Good conversationalist

Qualify for bulk rate mail on tax returns because you have at least 24 W-2′s attached.

At IQs of 160 and above, virtually all people have AD(H)D symptoms.

An innately better understanding of intuitive technologies such as computers.

In class popularity contests, always voted “Most Entertaining” or “Most Energetic”.

Great Improvisors

Honestly believes that anything is possible.

Great at Extemporaneous Speaking.

Quickly assimilates new information.

Usually a little smarter than the average bear .

Willing to “step out in faith”.

Rarely satisfied with the status quo.

Empathetic

Can easily replace missing childhood photos with panels from “Calvin & Hobbes”.

Pleasantly and constantly surprised by finding money you had forgotten about.

Blows up, but then usually recovers quickly.

An unstoppable dynamo of human energy.

Doesn’t know when to quit.

Intuitive

Compassionate

Persistent

Spunky

Hidden TALENT

Closely attuned to the moods of those around them.

AD(H)D is especially common among artists, musicians, and other creative people.

Can always be depended upon to provide a different perspective.

Visionary

An Individualist

Many successful entrepreneurs exhibit ADD behaviors.

Will fight for what they believe in.

Excellent motivators of others.



Checklist – AD(H)D and Autism Spectrum (AS)

This is a nicely-packaged list of common AD(H)D and Autism Spectrum (AS) characteristics as well as the similarities between the two.  Sometimes it’s hard to sort out all of the stuff going on upstairs, and this list is a GREAT place to start!

AS/Autism Spectrum

  • Detail oriented-may miss the forest for the trees
  • May be poor at multitasking
  • Generally prefer sameness and routine
  • Good at planning, may map out events far in advance-prefers to have conversations scripted out
  • May not be able to pick up social cues
  • May not understand tone of voice – may misunderstand sarcasm, not know when someone is lying, etc
  • May not be able to read facial expressions
  • May not be able understand body language
  • May have difficulty remembering faces or names
  • Prone to monologues and one-sided conversations
  • May have alexythmia to varying degrees – may be unable to express certain feelings in words, may not be able to differentiate emotions
  • May have difficulty with language processing- may take things literally, misunderstand figurative speech, etc
  • Theory of mind impairments- may have difficulty realizing that others think or act differently than themselves
  • Intense and singular interests that are relatively stable over a long period of time
  • May be fascinated with parts of objects
  • May start reading at an early age or have a “savant” skill
  • Has trouble with small talk, likely will not see the point
  • Honesty is extremely important- may tell the truth even at a disadvantage to self or others
  • Emphasis placed on accuracy and information exchange in conversations
  • May not respond to medication, but some do respond to low dose stimulants and anti-depressants

AD(H)D

  • More general minded – may get hung up on details, but generally more focused on the big picture
  • May enjoy multitasking. Some will find it overwhelming while others may excel at it
  • Have difficulty with schedules and routines
  • Generally poor at planning and time management, prone to procrastination
  • Good at improvisation and doing tasks “on the fly”.  Scripts will likely be ignored.
  • Can pick up social cues, but may miss them due to not paying attention
  • Can understand tone of voice
  • Can recognize facial expressions
  • Can understand most body language
  • May ramble, seemingly with no purpose
  • Aware of emotions, but may find them difficult to regulate or manage
  • Impulsive-possibly a compulsive buyer
  • Impatient-may finish sentences for other people, have trouble waiting in line, etc
  • Disorganized, may lose things on a regular basis
  • May be chronically late, unable to show up on time
  • Language processing generally OK, but may have difficulty with word retrieval, organizing thoughts into coherent sentences, etc.
  • May have difficulty staying on topic, easily distracted
  • Has theory of mind, though possibly underdeveloped
  • May have intense all-encompassing interests, but those interests will likely change from day to day, week to week, month to month, etc.
  • Generally very open to change, to the degree that they may appear to live in a state of chaos
  • May have difficulty with activities that tax working memory, such as reading or keeping strings of information in mind
  • Can do small talk, but may not enjoy it
  • Honesty is important, but may tell white lies if the situation calls for it
  • Symptoms are likely to respond to medication, usually stimulants (Adderall, Concerta, etc)
  • Can exist without hyperactivity symptoms, though some combination of both are common – women frequently have more symptoms of inattention

Both/Similarities

  • Likely neurological in origin and thought to have a genetic component-will often run in families
  • Can co-exist in the same person
  • Struggle with day-to-day living
  • Can have trouble getting a job or maintaining a job
  • May be introverted or extroverted, socially motivated or not
  • May have difficulty with eye contact, AS side more so
  • May have trouble socially- difficulty making or maintaining friendships or other relationships
  • May struggle with social anxiety to varying degrees
  • May have issues with hygiene and bodily maintenance
  • Can hyperfocus to varying degrees, difficulty with perseveration- may have difficulty switching tasks or picking them up after an interruption
  • May have been bullied at a young age, likely more severe in the case of autism
  • Under-diagnosed in females as opposed to males (symptoms may present or be interpreted differently, males may be referred for diagnosis more often, etc)
  • May be prone to sensory overload in intense environments.
  • Medication may help with sensory issues for some people-the method of dealing with overload will vary, but will usually range from a combination of panic attacks to meltdowns and shutdowns. Severity will depend on the person. Meltdowns seem to be more common on the AS side.
  • Struggle with insomnia or other related sleep disorders
  • Common co-morbid conditions are anxiety, depression, and OCD.
  • Can have dyslexia or dyscalculia
  • Can have a variety of stims or stim-like behavior- restless behaviors such as leg tapping are common for ADHDers, while rocking behavior is more common on the autism side. Pacing seems to be common in both. Nervous habits and ones that involve self-injury like nail biting are also common.
  • May struggle with decision making, but for different reasons
  • May have proprioceptive dysfunction – may be clumsy, bump into things, etc
  • May have moderate to severe GI or auto-immune disorders
  • May be highly creative and imaginative

Source


Sensory Processing Disorder – Are you bothered by smells, sounds, touch, taste, wind…

Adolescent & Adult SPD Checklist

by http://www.sensory-processing-disorder.com

Check out sensory processing disorder on wikipedia –
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sensory_processing_disorder

A good percentage of those with AD/HD or giftedness have sensory sensitivities that make us CRAZY!  Take this test to see where your sensitivities lie.

 

ADOLESCENT / ADULT SENSORY PROCESSING DISORDER CHECKLIST

SENSORY MODULATION:

 

__ __ bothered by clothes; certain materials, tags, seams, pantyhose, ties, belts, turtlenecks, have to wear shorts, skirts, or pants exclusively, etc.

__ __ bothered by “light touch”; someone lightly touching/rubbing your hand, face, leg or back

__ __ excessively ticklish

__ __ distressed by others touching you; would rather be the “toucher” than the   “touchee”, difficulty “snuggling” with your partner

__ __ have to fidget and “fiddle” with things all the time; change in your pocket, your keys, a pen/pencil, paper clip, rubber band, ANYTHING within reach

__ __ often touching and twisting your own hair

__ __ very sensitive to pain, especially as compared to others

__ __ don’t seem to notice pain; get shots/cuts/bruises and hardly feel a thing

__ __ dislike the feeling of showers or getting splashed

__ __ difficulty going to the beach; the sand blowing on your skin or getting on your body

__ __ avoid touching anything “messy”; if you do, you have to go wash your hands right away and/or only touch it with your fingertips

__ __ can not wear new or “stiff” clothes that have not been washed or soaked in fabric softener

__ __ hate to be barefoot or hate to wear shoes and/or socks

__ __ frequently get car sick, air sick, motion sick

__ __ a thrill seeker; loves fast and/or dangerous rides, leisure activities, and sports

__ __ difficulty riding on elevators, escalators, or moving sidewalks

__ __ avoid amusement park rides that spin or go upside down

__ __ seek out fast, spinning, and/or upside down carnival rides

__ __ will often rock or sway body back and forth while seated or standing still

__ __ frequently tips chair on back two legs

__ __ restless when sitting through a lecture, presentation, or movie

__ __ constantly chews on ends of pens and pencils

__ __ smokes cigarettes

__ __ difficulty eating foods with mixed textures, or one particular texture

__ __ prefer foods with very strong tastes and flavors

__ __ prefer very bland foods, dislike anything spicy

__ __ has a diagnosed eating disorder or has major eating “sensitivities”

__ __ constantly biting nails or fingers

__ __ bites lips or inside of cheeks

__ __ frequently shake your leg while sitting or falling asleep

__ __ love to sleep with multiple or heavy blankets on top of you

__ __ seek out crashing and “squishing” activities

__ __ cracks knuckles often

__ __ loves crunchy foods (popcorn, carrots, chips, nuts, pretzels, etc.)

__ __ frequently have gum or hard candy in your mouth

__ __ has an “endless” supply of air fresheners, scented candles, odor masking sprays, etc.

__ __ becomes nauseated or gags from certain cooking, cleaning, perfume, public restroom, or bodily odors

__ __ identifies objects by smell, have to smell everything, judge whether you like something or someone by smell

__ __ becomes overstimulated / overaroused when people come to the house or in crowded places

__ __ very high or very low energy level

__ __ avoids crowds and plans errands at times when there will be fewer people

__ __ overly exited/aroused in group settings

__ __ hides or disappears when guests come over

__ __ substance abuse

__ __ drinks excessive amounts of coffee or caffeinated beverages

__ __ notice and bothered by noises other people do not seem bothered by… clocks, refrigerators, fans, people talking, outdoor construction, etc.

__ __ sensitive to loud sounds or commotion

__ __ easily distracted by auditory or visual stimuli

__ __ can not attend certain public events or places due to excessive noise

 

 

SENSORY DISCRIMINATION:

 

__ __ can’t identify objects by feel if your eyes are closed

__ __ difficulty finding things in your purse or pocket without looking

__ __ don’t seem to notice if your hands or face are dirty

__ __ bothered by hands or face being dirty

__ __ loves to touch and be touched, has to touch everything

__ __ have a hard time feeling where a bug has bitten you or whether you are being bitten

__ __ difficulty heating food to the correct temperature, feeling if it is too hot or too cold

__ __ difficulty locating items in a cupboard, drawer, in your closet, or on a grocery shelf

__ __ difficulty with recognizing/interpreting/following traffic signs

__ __ difficulty judging distances about where your car is in relation to other cars, in parking spaces, or near a curb (fail miserably at parallel parking!!)

__ __ difficulty merging into oncoming traffic on road, rotary, or highway

__ __ get disoriented and/or lost easily in stores, buildings, hiking, etc.

__ __ can’t sleep if room isn’t completely dark

__ __ fearful of heights

__ __ difficulty concentrating on or watching a movie/tv show when there is background noise or distractions

__ __ difficulty remembering or understanding what is said to you

__ __ difficulty following directions if given two or three at one time

__ __ can not complete concentrated tasks if noises present

__ __ sensitive, or over reacts, to sirens, dogs barking, vaccuum cleaners, blenders, or other sudden/loud sounds

__ __ talks too loud or too soft

__ __ lethargic, hard to get going, appears “lazy” and unmotivated

__ __ become engrossed in one single activity for a long time and seems to tune out the rest of their environment

__ __ spend hours at a time on fantasy or video games and activities

__ __ great difficulty settling body down for sleep or waking up in the morning (did you even hear the alarm that has been going off for 15 minutes?)

__ __ has difficulty licking an ice cream cone neatly

__ __ difficulty with speech and annunciation

__ __ bumps into things frequently

__ __ often pushes too hard on objects, accidentally breaking them

__ __ difficulty judging how much pressure to apply when doing tasks or picking something up

__ __ difficulty identifying which key on your ring belongs to what

__ __ numbers and letters often reversed or backwards

__ __ difficulty telling time on an analogue clock

__ __ difficulty reading and understanding a map, bus schedule, directions

__ __ difficulty organizing and grouping things by categories, similarities, and/or differences

__ __ can’t seem to find words in word search puzzles

__ __ unable to identify foods that have gone bad by smell

__ __ difficulty being able to smell dangerous smells, i.e., smoke, noxious/hazardous solvents

__ __ difficulty being able to smell when something is burning on the stove or in the oven

__ __ difficulty distinguishing different tastes and/or flavors of food and/or drink items

 

 

SENSORY-BASED MOTOR SKILLS:

 

__ __ difficulty learning to ride a bike or other “moving” equipment

__ __ clumsy, uncoordinated, and accident prone

__ __ difficulty walking on uneven surfaces

__ __ difficulty with fine motor tasks such as buttoning, zipping, tying, knitting, sewing, playing games with small parts, closing zip loc bags

__ __ confuses right and left sides

__ __ prefers sedentary tasks, avoiding sports or physical activities

__ __ difficulty with handwriting; hard to read, takes a long time to write

__ __ frequently bumps into people and things

__ __ easily fatigued with physical tasks

__ __ frequently misses when putting objects on a table

__ __ messy eater, difficulty with eating utensils, spills and drops food

__ __ knocks drinks or other things over when reaching for them

__ __ frequently drops items

__ __ has to talk self through tasks

__ __ hums or vocalizes while concentrating on a task

__ __ significant difficulty learning to tie a tie

__ __ difficulty with motor tasks requiring several steps

__ __ difficulty lining up numbers correctly for math problems and/or balancing a checkbook

__ __ difficulty learning new motor tasks…a new dance, sport or exercise activity, how to drive

__ __ lose balance frequently

__ __ significant difficulty learning to type the “proper” way

 

 

SOCIAL / EMOTIONAL:

 

__ __ dislikes changes in plans or routines, needs structure

__ __ may be described as “stubborn”, “defiant”, or “uncooperative”

__ __ cries easily, over things others usually don’t, very “emotional” and “sensitive”

__ __ can’t seem to finish anything

__ __ difficulty making decisions

__ __ rigid and controlling

__ __ prefers solitary activities, avoids groups

__ __ impatient and/or impulsive

__ __ difficulty with social cues and non verbal language

__ __ difficulty with authority figures

__ __ trouble relating to and socializing with peers and colleagues

__ __ a “sore loser”

__ __ strong feelings of anger or rage

__ __ easily frustrated

__ __ needs sameness and routines; needs to know what to expect

__ __ have panic or anxiety attacks

__ __ plagued by fears and/or phobias

__ __ OCD-type qualities; can’t let foods touch each other on your plate, have to wear clothes a certain way, will only do ____, repetitively does ____, can not do _____ without doing _____, has to have ____ like ____

__ __ distractible and unorganized

__ __ hates surprises

__ __ difficulty seeking out and maintaining relationships

__ __ avoids eye contact


Empaths – Ya feel me? Uh, yes. Yes, I do.

Energy is a real thing that can cause real problems for people that are sensitive to it. Especially when that energy is coming off of another person!
Here’s an excerpt from my book, Here’s to Not Catching Our Hair on Fire, where I describe my empathic tendencies.  How do you compare?

I “feel” things mentally to understand them. It is kind of like a grocery scanner. I mentally hold a thought, idea, or person in front of my stomach and scan it. You can’t imagine the amount of information I receive by doing that. It’s not like it pours slowly in, though. It’s more of an immediate knowing of many things all at once…bam! Information stored for later review. Scanning is just one way I get information and the only one I have total control over. But for the most part, I pick up information I don’t want when I don’t want it. Don’t assume that I know a person’s dirty secrets or what they had for breakfast. It’s mostly feelings. Someone’s negative mood or emotion can hit me in the stomach and just dig and dig and dig until it’s raw and achy, and I have to leave their presence. Even then, the feelings don’t go away completely. They always linger until I stop what I’m doing and focus on getting rid of them. Most of the time, I can’t be bothered to try to stop what I’m doing, so I just deal with the underlying anxiety it causes me that day.


When I’m not at 100 percent mentally or emotionally and unable to block things out, I also pick up on feelings that aren’t directed toward me, but to another person, thought, or idea, which sucks because I can’t distinguish between any of them. I’m like a radar gun picking up every wave in my range. Beep. Beep. Beep. As you can imagine, I basically walk in a world of constantly thinking, “What’s wrong with so-and-so? Did I do something to blah, blah, blah?”

What is an Empath?

An Empath is a person who can psychically tune in to the emotional experience of a person, place or animal. In the paranormal and in some works of science fiction and fantasy, highly developed empathy is a psychic ability to sense the emotions of others and often highly aware of the health and state of mind of their loved ones, no matter how physically near or far away the individuals may be. It can be challenging for empaths to function healthily in society if they are unaware that they have this sensitivity and often opt to be alone.What Is An Empath

Most empaths are often in the dark about their innate gifts but the more developed ones are sometimes called in by the police to help track a murderous pedophile or other heinous criminal because they are able to take on the tortured emotions of the assailant. Utilizing Clairempathy, a type of telepathy to sense or feel within one’s self, the attitude, emotion or ailment of another person or entity.

They are sensitive to the visible as well as the invisible and pick up on body language, tone of voice, body movements, the words people choose when they speak, the words they avoid, the logic they use; and the hidden things that only an empath can sense inside another person. It is not uncommon for an empath to “freak out” for no apparent reason, only to discover later that a friend or family member went through some sort of trauma at that exact moment. So essentially an empath is someone whose feeling sensory is extraordinarily heightened, meaning they receive the majority of their psychic input from what they feel.

Since they’re being assaulted constantly by emotions which do not originate internally, they can’t figure out why they feel the way that they do, and therefore can’t address the core issues. Since empathy isn’t something you can really ditch it’s sometimes difficult to sort out what the Empath truly feels in a given situation or what they are taking on from someone else. This can prove to be very confusing!Empath Confusion

Emotions that create powers that have been known to be God like in nature. Emotions that build on inside only to be shared with those around you. Emotional empaths are so sensitive that they can absorb the negative emotions of others in their body, and actually take it on. So when an empath is around somebody who is anxious, they can actually absorb that energy into their body, when it isn’t even their own anxiety.

Empaths are born, and they’re born unskilled and are generally very understanding of others and their positions, and often times will ask questions rather than make snap judgments, or intuitively seem to ‘know’ there is more to a story than what meets the eye. They are sensitive to TV, videos, movies, news and broadcasts. Violence or emotional dramas depicting shocking scenes of physical or emotional pain inflicted on adults, children or animals can bring an empath easily to tears.

Empaths are people who don’t “read” the future, or predict it they “read” people, and their energy although sometimes it depends on the person being read, too. They’re often problem solvers, thinkers, and studier’s of many things. As far as empaths are concerned, where a problem is, so too is the answer.

They are the psychic sponges of the world, soaking up all the psychic and emotional static that other people give off. Being an Empath is one of the most common and most challenging of all the psychic gifts.

Source: EmpathGuide.com©2009

 


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