Category Archives: Behavior

September 25, 2012

Bullied – Book Review

By adhdsuperhero

Bullied – What Every Parent, Teacher and Kid Needs to Know About Ending the Cycle of Fear

Author, Carrie Goldman

Reviewed by Stacey Turis

Bullied has truly opened my eyes.  What I once thought was a one-dimensional issue, I now realize has layers and layers of complexities.

After author Carrie Goldman’s daughter, Katie was bullied at school for carrying a Star Wars water bottle, Goldman posted about the experience on her blog.  In her words, “it was the post that launched a thousand Geeks.”   The post went viral and a colorful (and quite large) cast of characters came out in support of this little Jedi that was simply doing her own thing.  This attention and “cyber-support” motivated Goldman to research bullying in our culture.  She presents her findings in the wildly-interesting book, Bullied.

Bullying brings to mind a bigger kid picking on a smaller one.  Maybe the smaller kid has a lisp.  Maybe he wears glasses.  Maybe there isn’t one particular thing that would obviously stand out as a reason to be picked on, but everyone knows who the bully is and everyone stays away from him.  According to Goldman, what on the outside appears to be a mere school yard issue, really goes much deeper and broader into the working mechanics of our current society.

If you ask a victim of bullying why they feel they’re being attacked, their response normally is that they just don’t fit in.  Unfortunately in this day and age the amount of ways to not fit in are compounded by a host of different sociological factors such as gender-specific marketing; including toys and packaging, sexual preference, culture, and media presentation just to name a few.

According to Goldman, “Children learn exclusion from the media, what with the superficial importance placed on looks, clothes, accessories, and brands.”  According to me, they also learn to talk like little smart asses.  A perfect example; I’m a huge fan of iCarly.  I think it’s a smart, funny and well-written show, but never in my wildest dreams did I consider the fact that every smart-ass comment I laughed at was making an impression on my young daughter.  Before I knew it, she was the smart-ass whipping zingers left and right.

According to the author, my assessment is right on.  “Twenty years ago, girls were largely idealized as nice and sweet, and popular television shows emphasized the idea that girls don’t rock the boat.  That was the heyday of shows like My Little Pony, Care Bears and Strawberry Shortcake.  As some girls began to rebel against the rigid stereotype of the unassertive female, a revised category of girl characters emerged, but now the pendulum has swung too far in the other direction.  Sugar and Spice gave way to sassy and saucy.  Mimicking the trend in television shows, the toy industry introduced edgier dolls.”

Edgier dolls!  Ah ha!  Let’s talk about my daughter’s fascination with Monster High Dolls.  I liked the Monster High dolls when they came out because they were original and included back-stories we all know and love (the Monster High kids were spawned from the likes of Dracula, Wolf man, Creature from the Blue Lagoon, etc.).  I also felt like they were good tools for teaching diversity and acceptance.  Unfortunately (or fortunately) I was never privy to the webisodes used to market the dolls.  According to the author, “The young girls who watch Monster High are led to believe that teenagers in high school should look like skinny, sexy supermodels preparing to strut down the catwalk during Fashion Week in Paris.  There are real consequences to the girls who watch these programs, as evidenced by the American Psychological Association’s Sexualization of Girls, which found that three of the most common mental-health problems among girls – eating disorders, depression or depressed mood, and low self-esteem – are linked to the sexualization of girls and women in the media.”  Correct me if I’m wrong, but this looks like a lose-lose to me.  The girls that buy in to these marketing efforts are at risk for mental health problems and the girls that don’t are at risk for exclusion.  Basically, through media, marketing and merchandising, we’re breeding mean girls and low self-esteem.

While we’re discussing the sexualization of girls, let’s get on the topic of the masculinization of boys.  I may have just made that word up, but the theory is real.  We’ve all heard the idiocy of “real men don’t cry.”  I’m not sure whose theory that was, but it is really screwing up our guys.  The perfectly natural and very human acts of boys and men sharing feelings and releasing emotions are discouraged in our “be tough” society.  Apparently, if you’re a sensitive guy that doesn’t enjoy the act of blowing things up or other seemingly macho activities, you’re at risk for being called “gay” (which is sad to me to be considered an insult).

Goldman writes, ““Homophobic Bullying inhibits all boys’ ability to connect with one another in deep, meaningful ways, and they suffer terribly as a result.  Boys feel as if they can no longer trust their closest friends and they cease to talk about their feelings and emotions.  They become lonely and isolated, not because they lack social and emotional skills, but because society discourages them from accessing and using these skills.  Boys are afraid to be labeled ‘gay’ and thus subscribe to these extreme stereotypes, which is part of their attraction to ultramasculine music and media.” 

All of the above is what the heterosexual male goes through.  Just imagine the pain that a homosexual male has to endure from his peers.  Sometimes it’s too much for a kid to bear and not living is the only way they see out of the situation.  When a person takes their own life due to the effects of bullying, it is called “Bullycide”.  Bullycide is a very real risk for LGBT kids.  According to Goldman, “Nine out of ten LGBT students report experiencing bullying in their school; LGBT teenagers are four to seven times likelier to attempt suicide.  LGBT children who are rejected by their families are eight times likelier to attempt suicide and at much higher risk of winding up homeless and living on the streets.”

The pain and trauma from bullying is real.  It’s also so incredibly invasive and damaging; it can actually change the physiology of the brain.  Goldman explains, “Studies investigating the neuroscience of bullying have found that bully victims experience anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress, difficulty concentrating, headaches and stomach pain as a result of being bullied…studies have shown that parts of the cortical pain network are also activated when a person is socially excluded.  This goes not just for adults but for children as well.  The brain of a child as young as thirteen has been shown to react to social pain as if the child were being physically injured.”

Reading Bullied has really made an impact on the way I interpret the things happening currently in our society.  I realize now that there are threads of commonality weaving their way through issues that are seemingly unrelated and something has to be done.  I leave you with my favorite quote (and will be added to my favorite quotes page) from the book.  “To the princess boys and the Star Wars girls, the non-conformists, the marginalized, the ignored and the outcasts, the hidden Jedis of the universe, over and over I offer up these words to you: You are not alone.”

Bottom Line:  Bullied is a smart, how-to read that will change the way you view the background and dynamics of our society.  Bravo to Goldman for advocating acceptance as a way to navigate through those dynamics.

Carrie Goldman is the author of the critically-acclaimed book Bullied: What Every Parent, Teacher, and Kid Needs to Know About Ending the Cycle of Fear (Harper Collins, 2012).  She also writes an internationally-followed blog called Portrait of an Adoption for ChicagoNow, the online community hosted by the Chicago Tribune.

Goldman writes about issues related to parenting, adoption, bullying and contemporary culture.  She has been featured on the Huffington Post, Babble.com, CircleofMoms.com, Mamapedia.com, and other top parenting sites.

In addition to writing, Goldman is an accomplished oil painter.  Her award-winning landscapes and portraits have been featured in exhibits and shows around the country.

Goldman received her B.S. from Northwestern University and her M.B.A. from the Kellogg School of Management.  She lives in Illinois with her husband and three young daughters.

You can find her on Twitter here.

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September 7, 2012

Book Review – Pills Are Not for Preschoolers

By adhdsuperhero

Pills Are Not for Preschoolers – A Drug-Free Approach for Troubled Kids

Reviewed by Stacey Turis

Author Marilyn Wedge addresses something in this book that seems to have fallen to the wayside when it comes to treating troubled kids; the importance of understanding family dynamics, and knowing how to communicate effectively within those dynamics.  Pills Are Not for Preschoolers offers case-based evidence on how child-focused family therapy can address seemingly neurological-based symptoms, break them apart, and then “reframe” them in a way that doesn’t label the child with a condition or require them to take medication.  This type of therapy incorporates the valuable yet mostly forgotten concept of “it takes a village”; with therapy participants including parents, teachers, grandparents, siblings or whoever else may need to be included in the “reframing” of the behavior.

Wedge writes, “Family therapy is not a magic bullet, nor is it a prolonged course of ‘talk therapy’.  Rather, it is a holistic and humanistic approach to treatment that frames a child’s problem in the wider context of the family.  Some of the strategies come from ordinary common sense.  Others are more sophisticated and paradoxical.  All are intended to treat children – even those with the most serious disturbances – without diagnosing them with mental disorders and without using drugs to control them.  The techniques are easy to understand and easy to put into action.  Most important, you can use them without reservations or fear because, unlike psychiatric medications, they can do no harm.”

According to the author, “With over five million American children currently diagnosed with ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) and other psychiatric disorders, taking a child to a psychiatrist – and giving him medication to curtail his symptoms – has become as common as taking a boy or girl to soccer practice.”

The fact of the matter is that most people simply don’t realize there are other avenues that can be explored before medicating, which according to Wedge is not surprising considering the amount of money that pharmaceutical companies put into marketing and advertising so their drug is the first one that pops into a parent’s head when their child starts exhibiting a few of the bullet-point symptoms that aggressively flash over the TV.

This book did not bring out indifference in me.  Some of the author’s points I passionately agreed with.  I absolutely question the sanity of allowing economic forces to drive the mental health field, especially when it comes to children.  As the author points out, “Developing new drugs or re-purposing old ones and prescribing them to children, has been immensely profitable to drug companies and to the scores of psychiatrists and medical researchers who accept financial perks from the pharmaceutical industry.” 

I’m also a firm believer in the art of holistic healing; which includes mind, body and spirit.  There is no doubt that therapy is highly beneficial to our minds.  Sometimes getting a new perspective can change the way you look at your entire world.  It’s never too late to open the lines of communication and start repairing old hurts and misunderstandings, and talking to a therapist puts you on the fast track to that healing.

Like the author, I believe that even though it looks like a duck and walks like a duck, it could just be a fish.  There are many behaviors that mimic neurological symptoms that could simply be the manifestation of unrest in a child’s environment (amongst other things like diet and sleep patterns), and that is something that should be looked at before jumping into a diagnosis and correlating medication.

Though I appreciated the variety of cases presented, I would have liked to have seen the results from different children suffering from the same symptoms to be able to really grab on to some consistency.  As an adult with ADHD, I was interested in a particular case study with a child thought to be ADHD, who had been showing signs of focus and attention difficulties and was disruptive in the classroom.  Through family therapy, the author was able to find the source of the behavioral issues and the corresponding diagnosis and medication was never needed.

There lies one small issue I have with the book – the assumption that ADHD only manifests as issues with focus, attention and behavior.  It’s just not that black and white.  I’m not saying that therapy isn’t beneficial for those suffering from true neurological disorders, because I believe it is.  Therapy is a MUST in our box of tools.  I’m just saying, if a kid doesn’t have ADHD but is exhibiting ADHD symptoms, there is a possibility of some discord somewhere that child-focused family therapy can address; but if a kid actually has ADHD, that’s a whole different bucket of worms.  No amount of therapy is going to give a kid executive function skills that didn’t have them to begin with.

Family therapy can help an ADHD child and their family develop coping skills and change perspective, but no amount of therapy is going to change the physiology of the ADHD brain, and I was disappointed at the author’s following view on physical evidence of these differences; “ Consider, finally, the “scientific evidence” for a biological cause of children’s psychological problems.  How do we account for the magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) scans that show in vivid color how the brains of ‘mentally ill’ children differ from the brains of other children?  This research is impressive, but framing a child’s behavior as brain disease leaves out an important observation.  A child may be troubled at school but not at home or vice versa.  If he’s troubled only at school, what happens to his ‘brain disease’ when he is at home or a friend’s house?  If a kid with school problems behaves well at his grandparents’ house, where he can focus for hours on an exciting video game, what happens to his brain disease…?”

Individuals familiar with ADHD and the co-morbid conditions that follow, know quite well that there are many factors that come into play where symptoms are concerned, including but definitely not limited to: sensory factors, over-stimulation, interest in the environment and hyper-focus.  It’s not uncommon at all for a child with ADHD to have trouble focusing at school or with anything seemingly uninteresting, but then come home and hyper-focus on something deemed “interesting” for hours at a time.  That’s pretty much how we roll!

Bottom Line:  Pills Are Not for Preschoolers offers valuable advice and a much-needed new perspective on the way we look at, communicate with, and treat troubled kids organically and within their family dynamics and environment.

Marilyn Wedge, Ph.D., lic. MFT, is a family therapist and author of two books and numerous professional articles in the  field of family therapy. She has a Bachelor’s Degree and a Doctorate from the University of Chicago, where she had a fellowship from the  Danforth Foundation. She had a post-doctoral fellowship (supported by the National Institute for the Humanities) at the Hastings Center for Bioethics in New York. She has taught at the California State University, East Bay, the College of the Art Institute of Chicago and the University of Chicago Extension.

In 1979-1980, she volunteered in Cochas Chico, a rural village high in the Peruvian Andes. There she helped native artisans start a craft co-op to sell their weavings and carvings.

Dr. Wedge has blogs on the Huffington Post and Psychology Today, and her work has appeared in the Wall Street Journal. She writes for a number of online websites including Babble.com, Mamapedia.com and ModernMom.com. She has consulted for People Magazine (August 22, 2011), Parenting Magazine (November, 2011) and Natural Health Magazine (Sept./Oct. 2012) on issues of child development and how to parent happy, healthy children.

She is a popular presenter at national and international conferences, including three Milton Erickson Foundation Conferences and two annual conferences of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT). She has a private practice in Westlake Village, California, where she sees children, teens, couples, and individuals.

She has been married for thirty-one years to her husband Gene, and they have three grown children and two grandchildren. They live in Oak Park California.  In her leisure time, she enjoys ocean swimming, reading, and spending time with grandsons Theo and Hawthorne.

You can visit Marilyn at the following:

Website     Facebook     Twitter

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June 27, 2012

(anti) Social Media – AD(H)D Superhero updates for 2011

By adhdsuperhero

My Facebook updates from 2011.  When I read this straight-through, even I was shocked at my wackiness.  Here’s to making you all feel less crazy!  XO  ~ST

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

It’s quite apparent that I actually took my meds today…whereas normally it would never even cross my mind to vacuum, not only did I vacuum, I actually took the flipping thing apart and washed it piece by piece. Of course, the pieces are still drying on the counter, and will be for the next three or four weeks OR until I decide to vacuum again…

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Is there such thing as an email phobia? If so, I have it…I’m talking, a hard core phobia. I can’t look at it…it’s been weeks and weeks and weeks. Just the thought of checking it makes my armpits itch…

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Nikko (5 yrs.): Mom, are you from New York?

Me: No…why?

Nikko: Because you always act really weird.

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I just yelled at the kids to “CLOSE YOUR MOUTHS AND START EATING!!!”  Maybe that’s why they think I’m weird.

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If you want to see a grown-ass woman have a public meltdown, just change the layout of the store she frequents…I’m talking to you TARGET!

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Am I the only one that has changed my FB profile to the British version to shake things up a bit? I was hoping my “friends” would now be called “mates” but the only thing I’ve noticed is that “o-r” words have now become “o-u-r” words. Bloody hell!

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I really need to learn to practice patience…I thought doing jumping jacks would be a productive way to keep from pulling my eyeballs out of my head while waiting for my tea to warm in the microwave. Apparently I haven’t used those foot muscles in a while, because I now look like a pirate as I limp around the house. ARGHHHH Matey!

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I’m not kidding…I forgot what I was going to write.

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Hmmm. How many “me” things have I had to apologize for this week? Forgetting (multiple times), social anxiety, sensory over-stimulation, introversion, not reading my email or having my phone attached to my hip, having difficulty with transitions, etc., etc., etc. How am I supposed to accept these “infractions” when some around me are CONSTANTLY bringing them to my attention? P.S. – I’m not really sorry.

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Tomorrow, I’ll get on email. Tomorrow, I’ll get on email. Tomorrow, I’ll get on email.

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Winter blues? Take a whiff of Bergamot to fight depression!

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Procrastination is not a bad thing, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! Without those executive function skills that “normal” people have, a looming deadline is the only thing that tells our brain that we need to get on the ball. Procrastination is a MUST in our superhero tool belt if we want to accomplish anything!!!

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OH JOY, OH JOY! I finally made it through my holiday super-funk! It’s like clock-work every year, so I just push through, and then suddenly, (angels singing) I see the light.

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Pulling out my focus arsenal to write! Aromatherapy, lamp-lit room, and brain wave app. – geez…it takes a village!

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I lose interest in my coffee as soon as it stops burning my tongue.

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Who else has sensory issues? I’m the proverbial “have to turn down the radio to smell the stew”. That’s the stuff that makes life interesting! :)

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I’m pretty sure I could be a gourmet chef, if only I could get someone to do all of the boring parts, like cutting up the veggies!

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Meeting fellow superheroes is amazing…imagine how banded together, we could change the world!

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Am I the only one that gets TOTALLY stressed and overwhelmed by email?!?! I almost dislike it as much as my phone! Well, I actually only dislike my phone when people call it…

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It’s kind of hard to plan ahead, when I spend all of my time just trying to catch up!

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I love my phone, and its ability to run apps. I use a brain wave app, when I’m attempting deep focus, and it works amazing. If you have a smartphone, do yourself a favor and download a brainwave app!

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ADHD is like a built-in adventure creator…make sure your bags stay packed.

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I always forget words just as I’m getting ready to use them. It’s actually a condition associated with ADHD, and guess what…I can’t remember the name of the condition!!!!

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Bummer…went into a funk.  Will reappear shortly.

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Still in that funk…almost out of the cave…maybe.

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Try not to “should” on yourself, and don’t let other people “should” on you, either.

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When you say something, most people think that you mean what THEY mean when they say the same thing, which for me most times is the complete opposite!

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Get your A-Team together!

I’ve found delegating to be a real key when it comes to happy wife, happy life…

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Glad to be out of the super-funk! I’ve got lots of living to do before the next one rolls around! :)

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Man oh man…don’t we give ourselves enough sh*t without having people around us give us a dose of their sh*t too?

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Do you suffer from anxiety? Anxiety, depression and AD/HD are BFFs and love to hang out together!

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Happy Earth Day!!!!

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‎”Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

~Albert Einstein

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So, for the past couple of weeks I’ve been doing that whole “3 P” thing…perfectionism which leads to procrastination which leads to paralysis. Now, I’m in the paralyzed state. I really detest the paralyzed state…a state where I’m not moving forward. So I do move forward…into the dead place. Here I am. Curse you dead place!

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Even in the face of resistance, it’s imperative that we remain the natural, organic versions of our selves! Fight for your right to be quirky, dammit!!!!

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AD(H)D gives us a magical perspective that comes from intimately engaging with the universe in ways that don’t meet the eyes and can’t be explained. We are so incredibly lucky.

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“We ADDers are wired differently. And we make the world better by being wired so. Let’s go re-wire something today.”

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My husband calls me “constantly-amazed-girl”. I love that about me.

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‎”If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away.” ~ Henry David Thoreau

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I’ve been having insomnia lately. Last night, it was coupled with anxiety. I hate it when those two hang out together!!! I found myself lying in bed stressing about how many people fall into the Grand Canyon every year. Wow.

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Beating yourself up for your deficits is so yesterday! The future is all about self-acceptance and using the gifts we were given to change the world. Duh!

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‎”I don’t like the safe options. I like things that have a 50/50 chance of me falling on my face. I like the magic when it actually comes together and people enjoy it, but the magic is only there because of the distinct possibility of failure. I find that romantic in a funny kind of way.”

~ Keira Knightley

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An over-flowing sink is not an uncommon sight in my kitchen…I just can’t make the commitment it takes to do dishes every day. The same thing over and over and over and over and over, day after day after day after day. All together now – *middle finger to the dirty dishes*.

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Sometimes it’s a beating…those days when you fight through each second to the next. Tomorrow I’ll be stronger, but today I’m exhausted.

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It’s another day…I’m feeling kind of bright-eyed and bushy-tailed this morning. Watch out!

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Does anyone else suffer from “unorganized perfectionism”? What a mix those two are! BTW, I had to look up the difference between unorganized and disorganized…”Disorganized is when something was once organized, but is no longer. Unorganized means it’s not organized, whether it was before or not makes no difference.” I’m definitely the latter…there never was or will be organization!

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Thanks to my friend, ADD Crusher for turning me on to flylady.net after witnessing the dishes in my kitchen sink. Has anyone tried this cool little program for keeping yourself organized? #1 Keep your sink polished. Looks like I have a brand-new self-improvement plan on the near horizon…

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Speaking of barely being able to make a list and then losing it anyway, I’m going to try a new tactic. I bought a little notebook, and I’m going to write every list, phone number, website, book…all of these things I write on bits of paper and then lose, in that one notebook. The notebook will be harder to lose! Right? Won’t it be harder to lose? I won’t lose the notebook, will I?! Nah. Wait…will I?

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OK…weirdest thing ever. I have a BIG issue with transitions. They’re very tough for me…kind of like a kid. I figured out when I’ve finished completing a good-sized task, instead of moving on to the next one, I hang out in fog land and am worthless for the rest of the day, BUT if I take a quick BATH in-between tasks, I’m able to jump in to the next task, piece of cake, when I get out of the tub. Crazy, huh?

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How many of you get “downloads”, where it’s almost like you have a wireless connection to the great beyond, and information or ideas just stream into your brain rendering you useless until it’s finished? Then, once it finally finishes, it takes a couple days or longer to sort out what the heck was dumped into your brain, so you’re still useless! But then (angels singing), you’re suddenly a genius!

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After reading everything on this page, who couldn’t love us? Seriously…

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Back from my self-imposed electronic media break (ahhhhh), now I need to catch up! This page is on fire!

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Hard week. I had a bunch of transitions at once. Kids out of school, husband gone for a week, almost-daily swimming lessons started (anyone else have a hard time committing to ANYTHING that happens almost-daily?). At first, I thought I’d never make it. I just realized, not only am I still alive…I’m kicking this week’s A$$! Looks like the pre-dread got the best of me again! Till next time, pre-dread…

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

How many of you have tried meditating to calm your brain? I love it! I once went to a ten-day meditation event. I thought I would enjoy the peace. We meditated for 11 hours a day. By day 3, I was clinically insane, and planning my middle-of-the-night escape. By day 4, I was disturbing the peace demanding the keys to my car, so let’s just start with two minutes a day! ;)

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Meditation is good for our brains, because it involves visualizing, counting, and breathing…it keeps us too busy to be able to think about anything else. Start with two minutes…you’ll be shocked at how easy it is, and how you feel after. TRY IT! Come on! Ohhh…I’m seeing a meditation challenge in the near future…

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RIIIING! RIIIING! *jumps from being startled…curses phone and whoever is calling* How many of us have a “phone phobia”? Sometimes it’s all I have not to throw it across the room when it rings. My husband reminded me the other day of how I once threw my phone right out the car window after getting too many calls in a short amount of time. WHAT DO THESE PEOPLE WANT FROM US?!?!

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I’ve noticed a lot of people commenting on how this page feels like “home” and I totally agree. I’m watching us grow and evolve and it’s amazing. All of these “quirks” that we were so ashamed of and kept hidden about ourselves, are now coming to light, and we’re finally at the point where we can start to laugh at ourselves, and let go of some of the shame. I think it’s beautiful.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

‎”On this page we are not a bunch of squiggly lines trying desperately to straighten ourselves out so that we don’t bump into or offend the triangles, circles, and squares all around us. In this room we are squiggly siblings in our own comfortable tangles of giggles and insecurity, a creative huddle of mischief makers, creative problem solvers, and…absent-minded superheroes.”

~ Kaydie Paschall, Fellow Superhero

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Went into a superhero super funk. Dangit.

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I’ve figured out that sunshine depresses me and rain makes me cheerful. WHAT IS UP WITH THAT?!?!?!?

Like · · Share · 21 June 2011 at 11:18

 

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My super-funk knocked me into the dead place. It sucks down here. I’ll just lay in a corner and bide my time gathering strength. The less I fight it, the quicker I’ll be strong enough to climb out. Stinky dead place…I loathe you.

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Well hellooo. I just climbed out of the dead place. Nice to see everyone!!!

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Out of 517 of us, surely there are loads of us in a funk right now…make sure you meet back here when you climb out!!!!

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I must have suffered from premature evacuation (why does that sound dirty?) from my funk last week!!! I slipped back in a tad, but now I’m really back. Let’s have some fun!!!!!

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero asked: I love to cook, but can’t stand to bake. My theory is that baking requires following strict rules,…

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Forgetting makes me crazy! Especially when I forget that I should NEVER listen to my husband…he’s NEVER right! At least we get some good chuckles out of it.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I’m not a big fan of passive-aggressiveness. I like to meet things head on…no bullsh*tting here, and I like that about me so *sticks tongue out* pbbbbbbbbbbbbb!

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Husband: They’re having a pagoda behind us.

Me: What do you mean they’re having a “pagoda” behind us?

Husband: Pagoda means “garage sale” in Spanish.

Me: It does? That’s weird. Who told you that?

Husband: That’s what it says on their garage sale sign.

Me: Holy crap, Dave. Are you kidding me? That’s the name of their street!

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

When I start taking my vitamins every day, I stop washing my face every night. When I start washing my face every night, I stop exercising every day. Why can’t I ever get my sh*t straight all at once?!

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‎…take today for example. I looked online to see how to fix a washer, took it apart, and fixed it, yet an hour later, I can’t find my husband’s birthday cards that I hid in a “safe” place two days ago!

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I once read that 85% of those with AD(H)D occasionally suffer from bouts of “rage”. I can relate. How about you guys???

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

How many feel less weird after joining this group? If SO many of us are SO similar, we can’t be that damn weird!

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I just found my phone in the fridge. I wish I could blame it on the kids.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I’m telling you guys…I’m not just blowing smoke up your wazoos, meditation is VERY beneficial for us!

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Why is it that I can buy a gift or card a week in advance, but it never gets mailed until a week after the event? WHY? WHY? WHY?

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I now know why I don’t like malls and shopping in general. I had to call my husband to rescue my daughter and I because I couldn’t find the car. I told my husband on the phone, “either I’m a dumb ass or the car was stolen”…turns out it was the first one. AND THE ADVENTURES CONTINUE…

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

We love our friends and family, but unless they have AD(H)D, there is no way in H-E-Double-Hockey-Sticks that they’ll ever have any clue of what we go through. Sometimes they think they’re helping us with their advice and tips, when they’re actually making things worse. They “attack” so we withdraw.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.

~Albert Einstein

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If you met someone just like you, you would REALLY like them, wouldn’t you? Let’s chew on that for a bit…

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My email procrastination just came back to bite me in the butt. 1440 unread email messages. *sits on hands to keep from throwing laptop through the window*

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Back in town…WOW! You guys blew this page up…I LOVE IT! Now, does anyone have any ideas and how I can rifle through all of the posts? The “notifications” links are not ADD-friendly when there are a ton of posts to read!!! I wish they would delete as I clicked on them!!! Get on that, Facebook!

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I’m still overwhelmed (and procrastinating because of it) by the amount of notifications from when I was out of town. I feel like I need to respond to each and every one of you, but I just keep getting mixed up on the notification links. I’m just going to go down the page instead, so if I don’t respond when a response is needed, don’t take offense…I’m ADD. ;)

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

‎”If I had my life to live over again, I’d try to make more mistakes next time. I would relax. I’d be sillier than I have been on this trip. I would climb more mountains, swim more rivers and watch more sunsets. I would have more actual troubles and less imaginary ones. Oh, I’ve had my moments, and if I had to do it over again, I’d have more of them. In fact, I’d try to have nothing else, just moments, one after another… I would pick more daisies.” – Nadine Stair (at age 89)

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Hi everyone!!! I’m in Portland having some “back-to-nature” time with a favorite friend. Soooo therapeutic for the brain. Maybe we can all try to “unplug” this weekend?! It really does a body good. Well, the wine tasting hasn’t hurt either…I’ll be home on Monday, can’t wait to read what I’ve missed! Cheers!

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Back from my trip…that means school is just around the corner. I want to cry with relief (no offense to my rugrats, but they’re nuts). Am I the only one that has felt like I was paralyzed or stagnating this summer? This page and my writing has really suffered due to my inability to focus on other things when the kids are home…seriously looking forward to being Stacey and not just Mom again. WHERE DID I GO?

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I love my sweet husband, but when will he ever figure out that he CAN NOT TOUCH MY PILES?! He doesn’t believe me that I know every stinking thing in those piles. “A file cabinet? Are you nuts? I can’t find sh*t in file cabinets!”

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

‎”Not all who wander are lost.”

~J. R. R. Tolkien

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I don’t mind grocery shopping, but I can barely stand putting the groceries away when I get home. It takes me longer to do that than to do the driving to the store, the shopping itself, and the drive home! F-O-C-U-S STACEY! *remembers that the groceries are still only half put away and rushes to the kitchen*

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I was thinking (watch out!) that not only does my mind crave stimulation, but my taste buds do too. Hot, sour, vinegars, garlic, black pepper, jalapeno, carbonation…those are my favorites. Sweets, I can leave behind, but don’t take away my jalapeno pizza dipped in red wine vinegar!

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

How did I get to sitting in front of the computer to answer posts with a towel on my head? Seriously…let me at least get a little presentable, and try to focus long enough to make it to the bathroom to hang it up (where I will later find it on the bedroom floor or bed, causing a damp area that will annoy the crap out of me until it dries).

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I was on my home from a road trip a couple of weeks ago…I had to pee SOOO bad. I was thankful to finally see a sign for a rest stop a 1/2 mile away. You can imagine my surprise/disgust/amusement/full bladder when I realized that somewhere in that 1/2 of a mile, I forgot to take the exit.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

One last family road trip to go. Leaving today to show the kids the Alamo. If it seems like all of the summer vacations have been in the last month of summer, you are correct. That’s a direct result of my inability to pre-plan at the beginning of summer like most (non-add) people do. *(August 1st – “HOLY CRAP! We need to take some summer vacations!”)*

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I often think to myself “Yeah, you’re doing a good job, but you can do better.” I wish I could just hit pause after the “you’re doing a good job” part and enjoy the taste of THAT for a bit.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

For a girl that has a love of humanity, I sure have a low tolerance for people.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

ADD + PMS = Trouble with a capital four-letter word. Now where did I put that damn “Scream-Free Parenting” book?

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

To keep my anxiety level down I don’t use overhead lights in the house, just table lamps. It makes a world of difference! Make sure the light bulb color you choose is the yellow tone, as that is also calming compared to the white/blue. Oh…and of course, please buy cfls. Save the earth!

Like · · Share · 25 August 2011 at 07:58

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Tell us what you perceive to be your worst, most embarrassing trait, and I GUARANTEE you, most of us are the same way, which leads me to believe that maybe they aren’t such terrible traits after all. Maybe we just don’t understand them like we could.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Which ADD issues are affecting you most right this moment? As much as I love a good free-for-all, I really do need that structure I hate so much.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

ADHD = Attention Dialed to Higher Dimensions. ♥

Thanks to Robert Higgins!

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

A quote from my book, “Here’s to Not Catching Our Hair on Fire”, coming January 2012 (shameless plug), “I’ve finally come to the conclusion that what I want to do “when I grow up”, will be a constantly evolving idea, and I simply have to evolve with it. That way, when it’s all said and done, I will have done everything I’ve ever wanted to do, instead of wasting time and energy focusing on finding that one elusive thing that will never appear.”

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I’ve been asked more than once, if I had it to do all over and it was an option, would I choose a “normal” brain to live my life. My response is always…”Are you kidding me? I see more, feel more, taste more, smell more, think more, hear more, know more…what an amazing, colorful, layered world I live in that “normal” brains will never see. That’s like asking a meat-eater if he would want to give up his steak for a lifetime of Spam!” A weird analogy for a vegetarian, but hey, I’m weird.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Dave didn’t see me when he walked into the garage, so I started making ridiculous animal noises on the other side of the car, never dreaming that he would start panicking. He began yelling HEY…HEY! in a deep voice (trying to scare the creature, I assume) and then started screaming “Help, Staaaaace” as he pounded on the door to the house, which unfortunately for him, was locked. I nearly wet my pants…AD(H)D mischief at its finest.

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I’ve decided to stop using exclamations so much when I write. They’re in almost every sentence. Why am I yelling all the time? Someone tell me to pipe down!

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Tax-free weekend starts tomorrow. I’d rather pay the 8.25% to not deal with all of the extra people shopping. WHY DIDN’T I PLAN AHEAD???

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Non-Linearity of Thought – The reason we get the weird look followed by “I’m not following you”.

Like · · Share · 19 August 2011 at 18:46

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I have an @sshole virus on my computer (due to not keeping my anti-everythings up to date), and I have spent 7 hours trying to fix the issue (hyperfocus) to no avail. I won’t give up, though. I was just sitting here thinking, I bet the jacko that created this virus has AD(H)D (stimulation). :)

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

True Story – My husband and I were driving down a pretty busy street the other day. I was yapping about something and happened to look over to see a freaking chicken in someone’s front yard. No kidding. I lost all thought at that moment. Consequently the book byline has been changed to “A Tale of Living with Giftedness and Attention Deficit – Oh Look! A Chicken!”, as that’s exactly what came out of my mouth.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

What is your passion right now? Don’t use family, kids or friends. I’m talking about something that you do for YOU. A hobby, an interest…whatever puts you straight into flow…the best place for our wacky brains.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

‎”I love my dust. It shows I had something better to do.” ~ Anonymous

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

At the kids’ school there are hopscotch courts permanently painted on the sidewalks that all of the kids trodden over daily. Today I noticed as they passed over the courts, a lot of kids never even looked down. Some looked down, but then glanced back up, continuing to walk. SOME, however looked down, and without missing a beat, hopped and jumped through the court, always keeping pace to those that were simply walking. I bet we were those hopscotchers.

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This place has officially transitioned from a mere FB page, to a group of super-smart, intuitive, loving, hilarious friends. My dream is coming true…

Like · · Share · 30 August 2011 at 09:02

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

‎”Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” ~ C.S. Lewis

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AD(H)D is having a knot in the back of your hair and cutting it out with scissors instead of working it out with a comb. Yes, I just did that.

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Need an excuse to procrastinate? The book site is up, you can check it out and let me know what you think.  http://www.staceyturis.com

Like · · Share · 31 August 2011 at 11:04

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Well, I’ve gotten myself in a pickle where I have 83 notifications to read, and am too overwhelmed to do so. I’m going to have to start fresh, so if there is something you posted that I didn’t respond to, it means I didn’t see it due to my mad procrastination skills so feel free to say “YO STACEY – I SAID…” – sometimes you just have to knock some sense into me.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

How many of you would like to do a 21 day exercise challenge?!? I loved that idea – which superhero shared? For 21 days we walk for 20 minutes a day. I’ll design a little award badge to post on our pages for those that complete it.  STARTS TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 6th. I’ll be reminding you, of course…when my husband reminds me to remind you.  XO

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I just tried to turn on a lamp switch with my left hand backwards, and I couldn’t figure out which the hell way to turn it.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

‎…and just put on an oven mitt to start doing the dishes.

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The “discussions” and “notes” links on the left don’t do a whole lot to remind me that they are there. They may as well be in a filing cabinet.

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Sensory issues + underwear = bad mood. I’m going to the Dr. today and thought I should actually wear underwear. Why? I have no idea…just seemed appropriate, even though I’m just getting my back cracked. These things are pissing me off. Does the ER team REALLY care if you have underwear on if you get into an accident?!? I’m thinking if it ever happens they’re just going to have to see my ass!

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It must be hard living with ADHD and OCD. The ADHD is like, “Oh, look, a cat!” and then the OCD is like, “CLEAN IT.” – Thanks Michelle!

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Am I the only person that has a hard time reading the words you have to type in to confirm you are human? It all looks like scribble to me.

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Those of us searching for perfectionism in ourselves are completely missing the point of life.

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DAY 1 of the 21-day fitness challenge!!! Move your body for 20 minutes by walking, dancing, running, skipping, scooting…it doesn’t matter, just shake that @ss! For those that meet the challenge, there will be a cool badge to add to your FB page. Are you still reading this? GO!!!!!

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I planned on taking my medicine. I walked over to take my medicine. I unscrewed the cap to take my medicine. I was distracted while taking my medicine and have no idea if I actually ended up taking my medicine.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I have to laugh at myself because when I get thiiiiis close to finishing a project…maybe one or two things left to do, I go into a holding pattern. Paralyzed. I don’t want to finish it. Maybe I don’t want it to end (BUT I’M DYING FOR IT TO END). Maybe, I’m…JUST FINISH THE DAMN PROJECT STACEY!

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I FINISHED THE PROJECT!!!!! *booty dance commences*

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”You must carry a chaos inside you to give birth to a dancing star.” ~Nietzsche

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…the minute I feel the pressure of having to make money at something, it takes away all of the fun. I just consider this my job. Teaching people about themselves, and sharing the message of self-acceptance…it’s a beautiful job. No money, but it makes me happy. :)

Like · · Share · 9 September 2011 at 06:02

 

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Day 4 of the 21-day fitness challenge. How are you staying motivated??? I walked the rugrats to school, worked in the herb gardens and did a bit of yoga before bed. I love not feeling like a piece of crap at the end of the day. :)

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

My fingers always want to type “superherp” instead of superhero…I’m tempted to change the name for lazy purposes, but it may be a turn off.

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Which are you? I’m guessing visual-spatial. :)

Like · · Share · 9 September 2011 at 09:21

 

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Love this! “Angry people want you to see how powerful they are…loving people want you to see how powerful  You are.” – Chief Red Eagle

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This head fog is a pain in the butt. I love how all of a sudden I can look down at myself and realize that I haven’t groomed my toenails and fingernails OR plucked my eyebrows for a month. Where have I been? Why didn’t I notice the little toe hairs growing?!? It’s a miracle my teeth get brushed sometimes.

Like · · Share · 12 September 2011 at 10:26

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Am I the only one that can walk into a public restroom and then have no idea whether to go right or left when I walk back out? Does anyone else get instantly nervous when you have to find the front door of a business/restaurant, etc. that you’ve never visited before?

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Day 7 of the 21-day fitness challenge! Are you guys still hanging in there??? KEEP IT UP! You only have to move for 20 minutes a day to stay in the challenge. If you missed a day, tack the time on to another one! YOU CAN DO IT!

Like · · Share · 12 September 2011 at 11:27

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

A little note to all of the superheroes, with love…

Dear Wacky Ones – you are incredibly gifted, intuitive, highly-intelligent, and “normal” people won’t always understand the world you live in.  That’s OK.  Only you know what choices are right for you.  Always follow your gut and your heart.  It is impossible for you to fail – you have no choice but to accomplish great things in your life.  Be proud of the amazing being you are.  Blazing trails is a lonely job, and it’s not up to you to “wait” for others to catch up.  Understand that everything you see negative about you is actually a positive, and the very things that will allow you to accomplish those great things you are obviously destined for.  Let you be you without the guilt and shame.  You’ve always known you were special…trust that feeling.   Laugh at yourself while teaching others.  Go get em’ tiger, keep on truckin’, and finally, may the Force be with you.  I think you’re covered.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Do you suffer from insta-pissed-itis?  I’ve been known once or twice or a thousand times to lose my cool. I call it getting insta-pissed, and when it happens, it’s not pretty. Bouts of rage are common in 85% of people with AD(H)D…

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

You know that AD(H)D intuition I refer to? LISTEN TO IT! It’s a HUGE trick we can pull our of our superhero bag of goodies!  I have a million stories where I’ve used my superhero intuition to save myself from unsavory situations. AD(H)D intuition is a real thing, and you can learn to develop it through meditation.  So…

Like · · Share · 14 September 2011 at 08:45

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

I tried to make myself feel better tonight by binging on peanut butter sandwiches and smoked Gouda. It worked.

Like · · Share · 14 September 2011 at 19:04

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Why does it offend my husband that I use a chair as my closet? It’s not like he ever sits in the chair!

Like · · Share · 15 September 2011 at 06:55

 

ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

My book is almost here! “A belly-laugh inducing romp through a life so convoluted and chaotic you know it has to be true, Stacey Turis’s debut gives a voice to the genius yet tormented souls suffering from giftedness, ADHD, or a combination of both (a condition known as twice-exceptional) who are too afraid to speak.”  http://www.staceyturis.com

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

Just wondering if my propensity towards “letting the pans soak” is an AD(H)D thing…

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Hi. My name is Stacey and I have trouble keeping friends.

I’m in my own little world, but it’s OK. They know me here.

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ADHD – Tales of an Absent-Minded Superhero

‎”Anyone can become angry — that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way — this is not easy.” ~ Aristotle

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‎…speaking of closets and our inability to use them, I thought that by making my closet bigger, I would actually want to hang my clothes up. I did what any AD(H)Der would do. I took a hammer to the wall between my closet and a small spare room to make a gigantic closet. I got the racks hung in the new closet, but never replaced the carpet I tore up, and the missing wall looks the Incredible Hulk busted through it just seconds ago.

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HOLY CRAP!!!! I forgot about the 21-day fitness challenge!!!!! ARE YOU KIDDING ME? Anyone still doing it? Anyone know what the hell day we’re on? Whose idea was it for ME to be the reminder? Go shake those booties! I’m going to try to shake my a$$ hard enough that those apparent cobwebs fall out of my ears. That’s why my daughter calls me the “forgetter”. I’m a piece of work, I tell ya. Who does that? ALL OF US!!!! WOOOOO HOOOOOOO!

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I really hate it when they paint new lines on the road that follow a different path from the old lines on the road. Even though the new lines are brighter, my brain says “FOLLOW THEM BOTH!!” I am constantly getting confused at intersections trying to figure out which lanes are going left, which goes straight, is that light for me? What the hell is a yellow arrow? They didn’t have those last week! Which lane is mine across the intersection??? – it’s like an immediate panic and freeze. ARGH!

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‎”I see myself as an intelligent, sensitive human, with a soul of a clown which forces me to blow it at the most important moments.” ~Jim Morrison

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People think that because I have ADHD, they need to give me EXTRA-ADVANCED notice of something that’s coming up. That’s not how I work at all! Call me the day of, and I’m more likely to do something, even step out of my comfort zone if I fancy it at that moment. Advanced notice just gives me time for the pre-commitment dread. I’ll have myself talked out of it before it ever rolls around.

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It was one of those days. I went to our city’s Environmental Awards today…and lost…but not before popping a flower shaped pat of butter in my mouth thinking it was a mint, and then exiting the awards ceremony early by walking into a closet instead of out the door.

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Ughh. Too much going on. Became overwhelmed. Slipped into a superfunk. I’m going to roll around in the funk for a bit, but I’ll be out shortly.

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The city just asked me to be an Environmental Mentor for the Public Schools. That’s cool, and gives me yet another random thing to add to my resume…right under Big Foot Researcher.

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‎*magic hands* Something neeew will be revealed on Monday…not that you’ll remember by then. Hell, I may not even remember by then. *suddenly disappears* (but ends up in broom closet)

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DAY 21 of the fitness challenge!!! CONGRATULATIONS to all of you that succeeded! Please post this badge to your page, and brag your asses off…you deserve it! For those of you that had life get in the way, don’t beat yourself up…join us in the next one!

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So now I’m getting zero notifications from FB. Did anyone pay attention to the emails etc. that told us how to fix that? I knew I should have paid attention, I just didn’t feel like it right then. ;)

Like · · Share · 27 September 2011 at 08:41

 

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I’m feeling a little bit frisky today…let’s talk about our psychic abilities!!! *waves freak flag back and forth*

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Speaking of the wacky, how many of you get weird high-pitched sounds in your ear every so often?

Like · · Share · 27 September 2011 at 15:24

 

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We’ve touched on the subject of our intuition and empathy. Some people are scared to even talk/think about this stuff because of their upbringing, religious or otherwise, but in my opinion, it’s simply one of our senses that has been put to the back burner as we’ve evolved…pretty much a sixth sense. If you put it in that category, it seems kind of ridiculous to think that it’s anything but how we were made. YOU MEAN THAT LADY CAN SMELL THINGS THROUGH HER NOSE? BURN HER AT THE STAKES!

Like · · Share · 28 September 2011 at 13:49

 

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My daughter gave me a note yesterday with a little ditty that I think we all need to hear on occasion. “Don’t worry if your tasks are small and rewards are few, remember that the mighty oak was once a nut like you!” OK…I guess I’ll keep on keepin’ on, then. Wait. I think she just called me a nut.

Like · · Share · 28 September 2011 at 14:04

 

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I’m exhausted from just trying to keep my sh*t together today…and my husband washed my jeans, which means they feel tight, so that’s distracting/annoying…though secretly I’m grateful that someone’s doing the laundry around here! I feel like pig pen with a bunch of crap just swirling around my head. AUGHHHHHHHHHH! SAVE MEEEEE FROM MEEEEEEEEEE!

Like · · Share · 29 September 2011 at 09:44

 

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Dave: Have a good cry and get back on the saddle.

Me: I’m f*cking SICK of the saddle!

Like · · Share · 1 October 2011 at 12:35

 

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I guess I’m going through a little something right now. The book is getting close to coming out, I’m launching something on Monday…suddenly that familiar fear of failure is gurgling up, and it makes me feel less in control. I need to take back the upper hand. Is my fear of failure just a cleverly disguised “fear of the unknown”? And if it IS fear of the unknown, am I afraid because I’m not sure if I’ll be able to manage the “unknown”?

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“We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.” ~Dr. Seuss

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Quick…best thing about today? Worst? My best was grounding myself by making lasagna and banana bread and finally coming down from space after that two-week download. Worst was coming down from space after that two-week download!

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It’s true…the people on here are amazing. Profound, articulate, genius, intuitive, sometimes sad, sometimes happy, a melting pot of what we collectively are. I couldn’t be more proud of what we have here.

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How many of you feel like you are here for a purpose, but can’t quite grasp what it is? It’s almost like it’s just out of reach…

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One of my favorite quotes of all time…“Here’s to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes…the ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can’t do is ignore them because they change things. They push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.” ~Steve Jobs

Like · · Share · 6 October 2011 at 08:24

 

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Oh great…I just started soaking another pan. The last one was ridiculous even for my standards – 5 days of soaking in the sink before I ran it in the dishwasher (2 days) and then back to the sink soaking for 3 or 4 days. I finally put the pan and myself out of our misery by washing the damn thing.

Like · · Share · 6 October 2011 at 12:25

 

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Happy Friday! Finally! What crazy plans are you guys cooking up for this weekend? I’m thinking some serious alone time is in order. Am I the only wack-job that occasionally just needs to sit on the couch, looking out the window so my brain can just run loose and process things? I did it the other day for nearly two hours and I felt like a new girl afterwards!

Like · · Share · 7 October 2011 at 08:02

 

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‎”Be yourself, everyone else is taken.” ~Oscar Wilde

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Columbus was no hero. He was an arrogant, greedy, masochistic, villainous native-slave-trader and exporter. Today, I raise my middle finger to you, Christopher Columbus…you and your stupid ships.

Like · · Share · 10 October 2011 at 10:04

 

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I never know the date. Not only do I not know the date, if someone came up to me and asked me to guess, in my answer I could be anywhere from five days before or after the actual date. Time? What time?

Like · · Share · 10 October 2011 at 12:09

 

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We don’t want to scare our plain-brained friends with what goes on in our heads! Not that there’s anything wrong with having a plain ol’ brain of course…I mean, I wouldn’t want one, but that’s just me.

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I know I’m always bugging you guys about exercise, but it’s SO important for our gerbil-wheel brains! It’s hard when we don’t have a deadline pushing us to do something, and I’ve figured out if I get my yoga (or whatever you fancy for exercise) in when I’m waiting for something else (i.e., kid in the tub, tea heating in the microwave, commercials on tv), I can just slam it out without all of that pre-exercise or whatever, anxiety. It’s better than waiting around for something, and you might even get some abs poking out. ;)

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An email I got from a friend today…the subject was “Oh look! A chicken!” The body was “No, seriously. In the parking lot at Staples. Weird.”

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I ‘m reading an ADHD book, and something in there really struck me. It said when we find something that grabs our interest, we become so passionate, learning everything about it, we become instant experts! What is something you’ve become an “instant expert” on?!?

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How many of you can hear music in your head within white noise? For example, when I’m running a bath, I’ll unconsciously hear and listen to a piece of music for a while before I realize 1. that I’m listening to it & 2. there is no music playing.

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I’m a huge fan of aromatherapy. I even have a line of aromatherapeutic dog sprays, that I haven’t done anything with. The sprays are amazing, the labels are fabulous, the bottles are chic, and…

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It’s not a privilege to know others. Know yourself. That’s a privilege.

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How many of you have issues with affection? When my husband tries to hold my hand, I immediately get itchy armpits from the stress…and he smells fine, I promise.

Like · · Share · 17 October 2011 at 08:34

 

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I leave for an AD(H)D conference in Seattle on Thursday and I haven’t even reserved my rental car yet. Of course, why would I when I have an entire day left to do it? And laundry…and pack…and figure out when the heck my flights are (who did I book that through?) and…

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We’re all stars. We just need the sky to shine in…

Like · · Share · 19 October 2011 at 08:44

 

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If my husband was a REAL assistant, I would have had HIM make all of these horrible plane and car reservations, and then print them out for me for my little travel folder, and then get directions to everywhere I’ll be going (Space Needle?) and then print them out in chronological order, so there is NO THINKING involved for me…that’s how I like it. But wait, I’m a control freak that never lets anyone take the reigns. Ok. OK…I’ll give him props for making my decaf every morning.

Like · · Share · 19 October 2011 at 09:56

 

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Last post from me until Monday…maybe. Probably. Anyway, who besides me gets totally offended by having to celebrate holidays? I love Halloween, but the others just piss me off because I feel like I’m being forced. AND, I think New Year’s Eve is the biggest crock ever…I finally stopped going to the parties, because it was always such a let down compared to my high expectations.

Like · · Share · 20 October 2011 at 15:09

 

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In two weeks I leave for a 4-day Big Foot expedition. I love that stuff! It seems since I’ve had kids, I’ve stopped going on my own adventures, and I can tell it affects me…I’m an explorer, adventurer, investigator by heart! What is something you want to do that you never make time for???

Like · · Share · 21 October 2011 at 10:21

 

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‎”Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

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As ADHDers, we are lacking in Dopamine. That’s why we have a hard time getting motivated. Without Dopamine, the feeling of “wanting to” is diminished and often non-existent. This week, we’re going to be talking about ways to boost your dopamine levels. First order of business…GET OFF YOUR BUTTS! Exercise is the BEST way to boost your levels. Not only does it boost your levels, it causes your brain to sprout NEW receptors which means even more dopamine. Before you know it, you’ll be a walking ball of motivated sunshine!

Like · · Share · 25 October 2011 at 09:52

 

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Dear Normals: Please stop taking my behavior so personally. This may come as a surprise, but it’s not always about you.  Warm Regards.

Like · · Share · 25 October 2011 at 13:10

 

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I’ve successfully bathed my sweater belt in the toilet for the 3rd time in 2 weeks. This can’t go on.

Like · · Share · 27 October 2011 at 09:20

 

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‎”Do not apologize…bend the world to you.” TotallyADDs, Rick Green at the Seattle conference last weekend. Spread the message!

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I’ve not yet unpacked from the Seattle trip and now packing for a 4-day Big Foot expedition, complete with my snake-bite kit which horridly includes a scalpel and “instructions”…have I ever told you that I never read the “instructions”?

Like · · Share · 1 November 2011 at 12:38

 

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Your to-do list is overwhelming and now you can barely look at it without suffering from chest pains…just do ONE thing on your list. That’s it. Commit to ONE thing. There is a release of chemicals when you accomplish something which leads to your wanting to accomplish more. Who knows…maybe you’ll get to two things on your list today, but for now, commit to just one!

Like · · Share · 2 November 2011 at 08:01

 

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Hiii everyone!!!! WOW. I had the most amazing trip and marked something off my bucket list! As I was searching for Big Foot in the middle of the night in the middle of a forest with a group of bad-ass females using Military-grade technology at the highest focus and sensory awareness I’ve ever experienced in my life…I couldn’t help but get pissed off at the military’s ignorant rules regarding AD(H)D soldiers!!!! My focus and concentration was so intense (medicine-free), I could have burned a hole through a tree with only my gaze. That’s how superheroes roll.

Like · · Share · 8 November 2011 at 08:33

 

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I’m already starting to get overwhelmed by the impending doom…I mean holidays. What are some good coping skills you’ve uncovered to deal with the most stress-filled time of the year? Ropes, knives and guns don’t count!

Like · · Share · 9 November 2011 at 08:27

 

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“Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass. It’s about learning how to dance in the rain.” ~Vivian Green

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The kids have a school skating party tonight…my pre-event social anxiety should kick in in about 4 hours. It should stop after I get there, but then I’ll do the weirdest thing…whenever I’m out of my house and at a social event (especially with lots of noise), I’ll spend every second wishing I was just back home and not dealing with the over-stimulation. WHY CAN’T I JUST HAVE FUN?

Like · · Share · 10 November 2011 at 09:55

 

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OY VEY! I still haven’t unpacked from last weekend, and those evil piles that were already started, forced me to add more things to them. I tried to resist, but they kept calling my name when I needed to put something away. “Staaaaaaaceeeeeyyyy, you don’t have to put that wet towel away….just throw it on top of me…I’m a pile…that’s my point…Staaaaaaceeey”. FINE PILE! YOU WANT SOME OF THIS??? *throws wet towel, a star wars figurine, a hairband, some beads, a few large cracker crumbs (big enough to pick up again), an empty cup, and a Monster High doll on top of the pile and stomps away, cursing*

Like · · Share · 13 November 2011 at 12:28

 

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I got the formatted interior of the book, “Here’s to Not Catching Our Hair on Fire” back last week, so they are just waiting for my approval…problem is that I’ve read the book 14,000 times for editing purposes and I can’t make myself look at it. I’ve got to, but I can’t, but I’ve got to, but I can’t, but I must keep on keepin’ on, because it’s weighing me down and funking me out. I’m paralyzed, but I must push through. RAWWWWWWWRRRRRRRRRRRRR. That was my Incredible Hulk yell…just another way to procrastinate. OK…I’m going to go read, so I can feel happy-go-lucky when I’m finished instead of pissed off at the world. RAWWWWWWWWWRRRRRRRRRR!

Like · · Share · 14 November 2011 at 08:54

 

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‎3 days on lockdown trying to get the book finalized…checking in with you shiny chickens…now back to work! See you in a few!!!! A few what? I have no idea…could be minutes hours or days…can’t. hold. this. focus. much. longer.

Like · · Share · 17 November 2011 at 08:47

 

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WHAT THE HELL! I should not be driving. How can one girl miss so many turns in one day???? *oh shoooooot…was that Kirkpatrick street? Damn. Oh No! Did I just miss I-90? Damn. Have I already passed College street? Shiiiiit.*

Like · · Share · 17 November 2011 at 16:41

 

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Holy moly. Well, last week sucked @ss…I am NOT gonna lie. BUT, I managed to launch some big issues right off my shoulders, and am now looking forward to being my usual-crazy instead of crazy-crazy. The great thing is when you get into crazy-crazy mode, usual-crazy doesn’t seem that crazy at all!

Like · · Share · 20 November 2011 at 13:26

 

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I love the sound of thunder…it somehow validates the turmoil I constantly feel inside.

Like · · Share · 21 November 2011 at 17:20

 

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I’m going to have a good attitude about the holidays, I’m going to have a good attitude about the holidays, I’m going to have a good attitude about the holidays, I’m going to have a good attitude about the holidays, I’m going to have a good attitude about the holidays, I’m going to have a good attitude about the holidays, I’m going to have a good attitude about the holidays, I’m going to have a good attitude about the holidays…

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I’m a glass half-full kind of girl, which is good since my brain works kind of wonky, otherwise I’d put Debbie Downer to shame.

Like · · Share · 22 November 2011 at 16:20

 

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The holiday sheep mentality and over-consumerism kills me right now.

Like · · Share · 25 November 2011 at 11:58

 

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We all know cigarettes are addictive, but did you know that cigarettes are even MORE addictive to a person with ADHD, due to being a stimulant? Sucks and SUCKS!

Like · · Share · 26 November 2011 at 13:59

 

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SUPER HOLIDAY FUNK-A-RAMA. I can’t take this sh*t. Wake me when it’s all over.

Like · · Share · 27 November 2011 at 17:32

 

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After a week plus off of my darn meds, I just took them and waiting for them to kick in so I can get things accomplished today. Accomplishments are the only cure for my funk, and I’m wondering how much my week of floating in space attributed to it. ONWARD AND UPWARD…Let’s kick some Monday butt. Who’s in?!?!?!? *begins a highly-offensive shiny chicken dance*

Like · · Share · 28 November 2011 at 07:42

 

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Trying to exercise my way through this funk. I just did Yoga Bootcamp. I’m now thiiiiiiis close to puking.

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‎”Sucking at something is the first step toward being sorta good at something.”

~Jake the dog, Adventure Time

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Good timber does not grow with ease; the stronger the wind, the stronger the trees. ~Douglas Malloch

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I agree wholeheartedly that my reactions to the holidays are completely ridiculous. I also know that if I don’t take cover and work through them my own way, the funk will not go away on January 1st, and I refuse to be angst-ridden for any new beginnings, so fetal position in the corner through December, it is!

Like · · Share · 12 December 2011 at 08:26

 

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Sometimes I wonder if I feel like this around the holidays because I’m overwhelmed, or because everyone keeps telling me it’s the season to be happy, which makes me want to do the opposite. You never know. I’m that weird.

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How many of us are having a hard time with the “afternoon slump” where we get really tired? At around 1pm, there is a natural lull in our circadian rhythm that signals the body to release melatonin, which makes us drowsy. We can prevent that dip by exposing our bodies to 10 minutes of sunlight at noon. Sun not shining where you live? Get outside anyway…our bodies will still be able to absorb the vitamin D necessary!

Like · · Share · 14 December 2011 at 08:50

 

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I sent my daughter to her room. She tried to debate it, until I finally said enough and started counting. She then asked, “Well, what did I do?”, and I’ll be darned if I could remember.

Like · · Share · 20 December 2011 at 09:47

 

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That Elf on a Shelf is not very ADD-Friendly. Besides that, for 25 bucks, the Elf should remember to move himself.

Like · · Share · 22 December 2011 at 09:25

 

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I’m a perfectionist born and raised. That being said, just because I’m a perfectionist doesn’t mean that everything I do is perfect. Not at all. Not even close. Not even sometimes…

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Happy Holidays Super Heroes!!! May your tights not get tighter… XO

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In honor of the holidays being next to over, and me being in such a great mood because of it, I’m going to share what I think must be the weirdest quirk I have, that I’ve never shared with ANYONE…(drum roll)…whenever I’m in a store, and I mean ANY store, I always think the employees think I’m stealing. Always. Can someone analyze that one for me? Please? It can’t be healthy.

Like · · Share · 26 December 2011 at 15:40

 

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Happy New Year to the lot of you, and please don’t drink and drive…little Timmy in the car ahead of you has big plans for his life, and only HE should be allowed to screw those up. XO

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June 20, 2012

My Book is Free Today!

By adhdsuperhero

I’ve found that a lot of people think it’s cool when they get things for free.  Hey look, I’m not trying to make a million bucks – I’m trying to make a difference.  SO, in the interest of saving the world, please enjoy a free Kindle copy of my book, Here’s to Not Catching Our Hair on Fire: An Absent-Minded Tale of Life with Giftedness and Attention Deficit – Oh Look! A Chicken! ~ST

If you don’t have a Kindle, you can download a free app for your phone, tablet or PC here. 

This offer for a bazillion dollars off the retail price is good today and tomorrow (whatever the date is) only!

Here's to Not Catching Our Hair on Fire

Did you know that if you forget to pay a speeding ticket you WILL get arrested—in front of your kids, the neighbors—the dog—and anyone else who happens to be there? True story. And the thing is, Stacey Turis has a million of them, and she imparts these and other nuggets of wisdom to offer others suffering from ADHD some hope in knowing that they are not alone.

A belly-laugh inducing romp through a life so convoluted and chaotic you know it has to be true, Stacey Turis’s debut gives a voice to the genius yet tormented souls suffering from giftedness, ADHD, or a combination of both (a condition known as twice-exceptional) who are too afraid to speak.

Chronicling her life journey from a state of self-loathing to one of self-acceptance, the stories flow timelessly, always incorporating the resulting lessons and reflections gleaned from each adventure. Including both the tragic, stomach churning details of a horrifically abusive time in her childhood to comic adventures such as deciding to dye her hair plum the day before an important presentation to a bank only to have it turn out purple, her life has never suffered from a dull moment. Though she often thought Karma was the reason she found herself in so many “pickles,” a friend explained to her that when you put yourself out in the world more than anyone else, it’s really just a matter of statistics. Lucky for Turis and the rest of us, putting herself out there all these years allows us all to look at life through her pair of less-struggle-more-sass glasses.

With over three hundred million people suffering from ADHD worldwide and experiencing many of the same debilitating symptoms, Turis’ goal is to share her experiences so that others afflicted can rid themselves of the shame of hiding their behavior. A rip-roaring and bracingly honest look at a twice-exceptional life, Here’s to Not Catching Our Hair on Fire: An Absent-Minded Tale of Life with Giftedness and Attention Deficit—Oh Look! A Chicken! turns the rational on its head in a rollicking depiction of a life that seems to be constantly going off the rails.

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April 11, 2012

Checklist – AD(H)D and Autism Spectrum (AS)

By adhdsuperhero

This is a nicely-packaged list of common AD(H)D and Autism Spectrum (AS) characteristics as well as the similarities between the two.  Sometimes it’s hard to sort out all of the stuff going on upstairs, and this list is a GREAT place to start!

AS/Autism Spectrum

  • Detail oriented-may miss the forest for the trees
  • May be poor at multitasking
  • Generally prefer sameness and routine
  • Good at planning, may map out events far in advance-prefers to have conversations scripted out
  • May not be able to pick up social cues
  • May not understand tone of voice – may misunderstand sarcasm, not know when someone is lying, etc
  • May not be able to read facial expressions
  • May not be able understand body language
  • May have difficulty remembering faces or names
  • Prone to monologues and one-sided conversations
  • May have alexythmia to varying degrees – may be unable to express certain feelings in words, may not be able to differentiate emotions
  • May have difficulty with language processing- may take things literally, misunderstand figurative speech, etc
  • Theory of mind impairments- may have difficulty realizing that others think or act differently than themselves
  • Intense and singular interests that are relatively stable over a long period of time
  • May be fascinated with parts of objects
  • May start reading at an early age or have a “savant” skill
  • Has trouble with small talk, likely will not see the point
  • Honesty is extremely important- may tell the truth even at a disadvantage to self or others
  • Emphasis placed on accuracy and information exchange in conversations
  • May not respond to medication, but some do respond to low dose stimulants and anti-depressants

AD(H)D

  • More general minded – may get hung up on details, but generally more focused on the big picture
  • May enjoy multitasking. Some will find it overwhelming while others may excel at it
  • Have difficulty with schedules and routines
  • Generally poor at planning and time management, prone to procrastination
  • Good at improvisation and doing tasks “on the fly”.  Scripts will likely be ignored.
  • Can pick up social cues, but may miss them due to not paying attention
  • Can understand tone of voice
  • Can recognize facial expressions
  • Can understand most body language
  • May ramble, seemingly with no purpose
  • Aware of emotions, but may find them difficult to regulate or manage
  • Impulsive-possibly a compulsive buyer
  • Impatient-may finish sentences for other people, have trouble waiting in line, etc
  • Disorganized, may lose things on a regular basis
  • May be chronically late, unable to show up on time
  • Language processing generally OK, but may have difficulty with word retrieval, organizing thoughts into coherent sentences, etc.
  • May have difficulty staying on topic, easily distracted
  • Has theory of mind, though possibly underdeveloped
  • May have intense all-encompassing interests, but those interests will likely change from day to day, week to week, month to month, etc.
  • Generally very open to change, to the degree that they may appear to live in a state of chaos
  • May have difficulty with activities that tax working memory, such as reading or keeping strings of information in mind
  • Can do small talk, but may not enjoy it
  • Honesty is important, but may tell white lies if the situation calls for it
  • Symptoms are likely to respond to medication, usually stimulants (Adderall, Concerta, etc)
  • Can exist without hyperactivity symptoms, though some combination of both are common – women frequently have more symptoms of inattention

Both/Similarities

  • Likely neurological in origin and thought to have a genetic component-will often run in families
  • Can co-exist in the same person
  • Struggle with day-to-day living
  • Can have trouble getting a job or maintaining a job
  • May be introverted or extroverted, socially motivated or not
  • May have difficulty with eye contact, AS side more so
  • May have trouble socially- difficulty making or maintaining friendships or other relationships
  • May struggle with social anxiety to varying degrees
  • May have issues with hygiene and bodily maintenance
  • Can hyperfocus to varying degrees, difficulty with perseveration- may have difficulty switching tasks or picking them up after an interruption
  • May have been bullied at a young age, likely more severe in the case of autism
  • Under-diagnosed in females as opposed to males (symptoms may present or be interpreted differently, males may be referred for diagnosis more often, etc)
  • May be prone to sensory overload in intense environments.
  • Medication may help with sensory issues for some people-the method of dealing with overload will vary, but will usually range from a combination of panic attacks to meltdowns and shutdowns. Severity will depend on the person. Meltdowns seem to be more common on the AS side.
  • Struggle with insomnia or other related sleep disorders
  • Common co-morbid conditions are anxiety, depression, and OCD.
  • Can have dyslexia or dyscalculia
  • Can have a variety of stims or stim-like behavior- restless behaviors such as leg tapping are common for ADHDers, while rocking behavior is more common on the autism side. Pacing seems to be common in both. Nervous habits and ones that involve self-injury like nail biting are also common.
  • May struggle with decision making, but for different reasons
  • May have proprioceptive dysfunction – may be clumsy, bump into things, etc
  • May have moderate to severe GI or auto-immune disorders
  • May be highly creative and imaginative

Source

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April 9, 2012

Happiness Schmappiness

By adhdsuperhero

Why is the Art of Being Happy sometimes so elusive?  Don’t give me the ol’ “Being happy is an inside job” because I know that, I preach that…and on the inside I AM happy.  It’s the things going on around me in the world that yank me violently from that place of bliss.  Unfortunately, it’s my job to deal with those things in the healthiest way possible, and sometimes that’s tough.  Necessary, but tough.

I read an amazing book last year called, The Geography of Bliss: One Grump’s Search for the Happiest Places in the World, by Eric Weiner.   A ridiculous and cliché statement, but I found a lot of happy in that book.

“Using the ancient philosophers and the much more recent “science of happiness” as my guide, I travel the world in search of the happiest places and what we can learn from them.  As I make my way from Iceland (one of the world’s happiest countries) to Bhutan (where the king has made Gross National Happiness a national priority) to Moldova (not a happy place), I  calls upon the collective wisdom of “the self-help industrial complex” to help him navigate the path to contentment.

I travel to Switzerland, where I discovers the hidden virtues of boredom; to the tiny-and extremely wealthy-Persian Gulf nation of Qatar, where the relationship between money and happiness is laid bare; to India, where Westerners seek their bliss at the feet of gurus; to Thailand, where not thinking is a way of life; to a small town outside London where happiness experts attempt to “change the psychological climate.”  I am no dispassionate observer. In his quest for the world’s happiest places, he eats rotten Icelandic shark, smokes Moroccan hashish and intervenes to save (almost) an insect in distress.”

I’m going to have to bust that book out again.  I need a new perspective, and that’s OK…we all need a good tune-up every now and then.  My big-girl panties are around here somewhere, I just need to slap them on my butt, slap a smile on my face and KEEP ON KEEPIN’ ON.  ~ST

A New Way to Find Happiness

Written by Anna Selner

For over a decade, a very serious group of researchers in psychology in the United States have been tackling a new question. Tired of dwelling on problems that conventional psychology explored for over a century and a half, that of trying to understand how to treat mental illness, they asked themselves, “Why not try to understand why people are happy?”

Thence positive psychology was born. Whilst it is commendable to relieve people of their psychological suffering, the fact of increasing life satisfaction is a promising area not only to increase happiness, but also to treat disease. But do not confuse “positive psychology” with “positive thinking”, the scope of the former being much larger and complex.

For example, positive psychology shows how we often rely on shortcuts to increase our well-being (pleasure, entertainment and excesses in various areas of our lives). This vision of happiness leads to too many people, even if they have great wealth, finding themselves spiritually empty and hungry.

Instead, positive psychologists say we ought to rely on our strengths and personal qualities to find happiness and delight, as positive emotions that deviate from authentic and moral attitudes inevitably lead to emptiness and depression.

Are you naturally happy? Do you have strategies of your own that offer positive psychology? Here’s a little test from the book Authentic Happiness, by Martin Seligman, one of the founders of this new science.

Happiness Forever?

Do we have real control over our sense of happiness? Can we grow this feeling and keep it over the years? Like the great thinkers of mankind, from Confucius to Aristotle, through to St. Thomas Aquinas, positive psychology has identified fundamental virtues which, when experienced frequently, feed and maintain happiness. These fundamental qualities, six in number, are: wisdom and knowledge, courage, love of humanity, justice, temperance, and spirituality.

Here are 24 forces that research in positive psychology has identified help you stay happy!

1. Creativity

2. Curiosity

3. Open-mindedness and critical thinking

4. The pleasure of learning

5. Discernment

6. Authenticity and honesty

7. Valor

8. Perseverance

9. Optimism and enthusiasm

10. Love

11. Emotional Intelligence

12. Righteousness

13. Loyalty

14. Leadership

15. Compassion and forgiveness

16. Humility

17. Patience

18. Self-control

19. Enjoying beauty and excellence

20. Gratitude and appreciation

21. Hope

22. Humor

23. Faith and spirituality

24. Kindness

There are also other factors recognized by positive psychology. These are attitudes and ways of seeing the world that provide our daily well-being, if we take the time to appropriate them, that is.

Forgiveness

To forgive is to understand and situate the wrongdoing or pain of a situation in its proper context. Forgiveness is often difficult because it goes beyond the fact. It helps us accept blame and move on. It liberates and restores relationships, another great way to keep oneself happy.

Staying Optimistic

An optimistic person is one who is willing to believe in a favorable outcome when a situation does not suggest a sure result. Optimism helps attain a lot of happiness. It also helps us to be grateful for what we have, and it lets us entertain hope for the future.

Through positive psychology, we can reserve many good surprises for ourselves for years and years to come. It lets us develop a positive perspective towards happiness with total abandon.

References

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December 22, 2011

Wabi Sabi and the Beauty of Imperfection

By adhdsuperhero

I’m a perfectionist born and raised.  That being said, just because I’m a perfectionist doesn’t mean that everything I do is perfect.  Not at all.  Not even close.  Not even sometimes.  For example the holidays are rearing their ugly faces (and I mean U-G-L-Y), and yesterday I needed to get all of the gifts wrapped.  Have I mentioned how much I hate wrapping?  It’s kind of like baking…too precise for my taste.  I love to cook.  I can be creative and there are no exact measurements, but baking is for the birds…Oh Look!  A chicken!  ANYWAY, it took me about fifteen minutes to wrap each gift, because of the damn perfectionism.  You would then think that the gifts were wrapped to a T right?  Wrong again.  They look like every other wrapped gift under the tree.   It just takes me ten minutes to fold and refold the corners…you also have to add in the cutting time.  You know, when you have to cut the paper on the straight line?  Well, I can’t have any jagged edges, so I sit there and make sure every scissor stroke perfectly matches with the one before it.  I also take the time to pull any stray dog or cat hairs from the tape that happened to be laying on the carpet…I’m THAT sweet.  Needless to say, there is a lot of time and obsession that goes into my wrapping, but when it’s all said and done, it still looks like the monster truck my 6-year-old wrapped in printer paper and taped together with stamps.

I have a book coming out in January. I had to approve the final proof just two days ago.  Let’s put it this way, perfectionism and editing are like oil and water.  I was  on my 25th round of editing the interior formatting.  Sometimes I saw typos, sometimes I thought different words would work better, but at the end of the day, it was never perfect…even 25 rounds later.  Something had to change or this book was never going to see the light of day.

As I was making my LAST check before the final approval, I noticed a typo on one of the chapter headers.  SHIIIIIIIIIIIITTTTT!  Instead of three dots for an ellipsis, there were four!  FOUR DOTS???  OMG!  MY BOOK IS RUINED!  That was kind of dramatic, but that’s how it felt.  That extra dot would put me back a week in production time, which means the book wouldn’t  be out on time, but I couldn’t leave a TYPO, mostly because my biggest fear has always been finding a mistake in the book after it has been published, thus tarnishing the perfection (not of the writing, just grammar and spelling) of the book.  On the flip side, I knew it would happen eventually.  You know when you buy a new car, and you’re trying to keep it spotless and no drinks or food are allowed, and you even wipe dust out of the cup holders?  In the back of your mind however, you know that eventually there will be a kid puking in the back seat, ruining the perfect newness of the car, which actually turns out to be a relief because then it’s just a regular car, and you can take your dust cloth out of the glove box and stick it back under your kitchen sink where it belongs!

Suddenly I remembered the term WABI-SABI.  I read about it a couple of years ago, and always meant to apply it to my life, but of course, I never remember.  It’s a Japanese term that states,  Wabi-sabi nurtures all that is authentic by acknowledging three simple realities: nothing lasts, nothing is finished, and nothing is perfect.

Wabi-Sabi is meant to apply to perfection in the physical sense, but still I knew what I was going to do to put an end to my self-sabotaging perfectionism ways…well, at least with the book.  You know what I did?  I left the extra dot.  That’s right.  I left in a mistake, and the book will be published imperfect.  You know why?  Because that way, I’m not waiting for the kid to puke in the back seat.  Basically, he already puked before I ever even drove the car off the lot, and now I can move forward, leaving the dust cloth under the kitchen sink where it belongs.

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December 14, 2011

Regulating Emotions during the (eeek) Holiday Season

By adhdsuperhero

Anyone that knows me knows that a holly jolly holiday funk is imminent beginning the day after Thanksgiving ending no sooner than January 2nd.  One time my holiday funk lasted for eight months…nearly just in time for a new holiday season!  Fa la la la f-off!  I try to sit down and have conversations with my brain, trying to talk some sense into the darn thing, explaining that this is the season of joy, blah, blah, blah but he won’t have it.  I think he may even hate the word joy! If you have a brain like mine, hopefully this article I found will give you some understanding of why we may go mental.

The Holiday seasons often bring about extraordinary stress for everyone. For those of us with ADHD these stresses can be more magnified than for many of our friends, relatives and acquaintances due to the nature of ADHD. I would like to possess the answer for all of you on why this is the case but unfortunately I do not. I hope by this letter I can help in explaining potential areas where perhaps we can avoid some of the traps the season seems to set us up for and better skills in coping.

In adulthood some of the more common traits of ADHD are related to interactions with our family, friends and intimate relationships. These can often manifest themselves in zoning out, blowing out or copping out.

Zoning out refers to difficulty in listening, becoming distracted while doing tasks; not really noticing what is going on with those persons we are interacting with at the time. This is often further complicated by chronic disorganization and getting overwhelmed.

Blowing out refers to impulsive emotional outburst in word and deed especially with those that we love and care about the most. These occur even over minor life events. In other words “we always hurt the ones we love the most”.

Copping out refers to difficulty in completing projects, sticking to plans, remembering things, fulfilling commitments, getting to places on time, attending to details and general planning and organizing work and family life.

If you think of these three areas in terms of the Holidays you can no doubt see the pitfalls of shopping, office parties, and visiting relatives.

Shopping- Some people love it, others -many with ADHD do not. I am one that does not enjoy shopping. I can go into some stores that have unique items and things seem to go “ok” but go into at Wal-Mart, Target or some other large store that carries similar items that can be found everywhere and my SPI (I made this up–Shopping Pain Index) can kick in almost immediately. I become anxious and need to get out of the store as soon as possible. My SPI is totally irregular and can never be predicted hour to hour or day to day. Maybe some of you can relate to this.

Office parties are other areas where problems can occur. Sometimes they are fun and enjoyable and other times they feel stressful and artificial because you often feel obligated to attend and spend even more time with many of the co-workers you probably don’t enjoy working with in the first place. Add alcohol and less structure and the potential for verbal conflicts often increase. Many of us go and stay for a short time and then leave. If you work in a larger company sometimes you can make a quicker exit without being noticed. This is not to say we should not strive to be social but rather that if we are stressed it is everyone’s best interest that we not stay.

Visiting relatives, which we sometimes affectionately refer to as vacations, but in actuality often have no resemblance to real vacations, we can often find ourselves in some of the most stress filled situations. Our brothers and sisters, parents, aunts and uncles all seem to take on our old roles from younger years and we find ourselves in some of the old battlegrounds we thought we had outgrown. If we were the problematic ADHD child we may find ourselves right back in that role.

The Holidays often also lack routine and structure, extensive travel and poor eating and sleeping patterns. The stress of trying to be polite and nice to everyone can be problematic. Some people who take medication for ADHD are often tempted to skip doses or forget to take their medications during the Holidays.

The excitement of the Holidays can adversely affect us in many ways also; we should take time for a break from the crowd, relax and calm down. If we are feeling stressed out there is nothing wrong with admitting that to our spouse or family if we feel comfortable in doing so and taking some personal time.

Try and recall to mind some of our more pleasant memories of past Holiday seasons and remember what made them special and try and concentrate on what we could do to make this season more like that special one.

Above all try not to take things too seriously, keep a sense of humor and enjoy the Holidays no matter where, with whom, or under what circumstances you find yourself in.

By Patrick J. Hurley

Source: http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Hurley10.html

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November 23, 2011

Sensory Processing Disorder – Are you bothered by smells, sounds, touch, taste, wind…

By adhdsuperhero

Adolescent & Adult SPD Checklist

by http://www.sensory-processing-disorder.com

Check out sensory processing disorder on wikipedia – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sensory_processing_disorder

A good percentage of those with AD/HD or giftedness have sensory sensitivities that make us CRAZY!  Take this test to see where your sensitivities lie.

 

ADOLESCENT / ADULT SENSORY PROCESSING DISORDER CHECKLIST

SENSORY MODULATION:

 

__ __ bothered by clothes; certain materials, tags, seams, pantyhose, ties, belts, turtlenecks, have to wear shorts, skirts, or pants exclusively, etc.

__ __ bothered by “light touch”; someone lightly touching/rubbing your hand, face, leg or back

__ __ excessively ticklish

__ __ distressed by others touching you; would rather be the “toucher” than the   “touchee”, difficulty “snuggling” with your partner

__ __ have to fidget and “fiddle” with things all the time; change in your pocket, your keys, a pen/pencil, paper clip, rubber band, ANYTHING within reach

__ __ often touching and twisting your own hair

__ __ very sensitive to pain, especially as compared to others

__ __ don’t seem to notice pain; get shots/cuts/bruises and hardly feel a thing

__ __ dislike the feeling of showers or getting splashed

__ __ difficulty going to the beach; the sand blowing on your skin or getting on your body

__ __ avoid touching anything “messy”; if you do, you have to go wash your hands right away and/or only touch it with your fingertips

__ __ can not wear new or “stiff” clothes that have not been washed or soaked in fabric softener

__ __ hate to be barefoot or hate to wear shoes and/or socks

__ __ frequently get car sick, air sick, motion sick

__ __ a thrill seeker; loves fast and/or dangerous rides, leisure activities, and sports

__ __ difficulty riding on elevators, escalators, or moving sidewalks

__ __ avoid amusement park rides that spin or go upside down

__ __ seek out fast, spinning, and/or upside down carnival rides

__ __ will often rock or sway body back and forth while seated or standing still

__ __ frequently tips chair on back two legs

__ __ restless when sitting through a lecture, presentation, or movie

__ __ constantly chews on ends of pens and pencils

__ __ smokes cigarettes

__ __ difficulty eating foods with mixed textures, or one particular texture

__ __ prefer foods with very strong tastes and flavors

__ __ prefer very bland foods, dislike anything spicy

__ __ has a diagnosed eating disorder or has major eating “sensitivities”

__ __ constantly biting nails or fingers

__ __ bites lips or inside of cheeks

__ __ frequently shake your leg while sitting or falling asleep

__ __ love to sleep with multiple or heavy blankets on top of you

__ __ seek out crashing and “squishing” activities

__ __ cracks knuckles often

__ __ loves crunchy foods (popcorn, carrots, chips, nuts, pretzels, etc.)

__ __ frequently have gum or hard candy in your mouth

__ __ has an “endless” supply of air fresheners, scented candles, odor masking sprays, etc.

__ __ becomes nauseated or gags from certain cooking, cleaning, perfume, public restroom, or bodily odors

__ __ identifies objects by smell, have to smell everything, judge whether you like something or someone by smell

__ __ becomes overstimulated / overaroused when people come to the house or in crowded places

__ __ very high or very low energy level

__ __ avoids crowds and plans errands at times when there will be fewer people

__ __ overly exited/aroused in group settings

__ __ hides or disappears when guests come over

__ __ substance abuse

__ __ drinks excessive amounts of coffee or caffeinated beverages

__ __ notice and bothered by noises other people do not seem bothered by… clocks, refrigerators, fans, people talking, outdoor construction, etc.

__ __ sensitive to loud sounds or commotion

__ __ easily distracted by auditory or visual stimuli

__ __ can not attend certain public events or places due to excessive noise

 

 

SENSORY DISCRIMINATION:

 

__ __ can’t identify objects by feel if your eyes are closed

__ __ difficulty finding things in your purse or pocket without looking

__ __ don’t seem to notice if your hands or face are dirty

__ __ bothered by hands or face being dirty

__ __ loves to touch and be touched, has to touch everything

__ __ have a hard time feeling where a bug has bitten you or whether you are being bitten

__ __ difficulty heating food to the correct temperature, feeling if it is too hot or too cold

__ __ difficulty locating items in a cupboard, drawer, in your closet, or on a grocery shelf

__ __ difficulty with recognizing/interpreting/following traffic signs

__ __ difficulty judging distances about where your car is in relation to other cars, in parking spaces, or near a curb (fail miserably at parallel parking!!)

__ __ difficulty merging into oncoming traffic on road, rotary, or highway

__ __ get disoriented and/or lost easily in stores, buildings, hiking, etc.

__ __ can’t sleep if room isn’t completely dark

__ __ fearful of heights

__ __ difficulty concentrating on or watching a movie/tv show when there is background noise or distractions

__ __ difficulty remembering or understanding what is said to you

__ __ difficulty following directions if given two or three at one time

__ __ can not complete concentrated tasks if noises present

__ __ sensitive, or over reacts, to sirens, dogs barking, vaccuum cleaners, blenders, or other sudden/loud sounds

__ __ talks too loud or too soft

__ __ lethargic, hard to get going, appears “lazy” and unmotivated

__ __ become engrossed in one single activity for a long time and seems to tune out the rest of their environment

__ __ spend hours at a time on fantasy or video games and activities

__ __ great difficulty settling body down for sleep or waking up in the morning (did you even hear the alarm that has been going off for 15 minutes?)

__ __ has difficulty licking an ice cream cone neatly

__ __ difficulty with speech and annunciation

__ __ bumps into things frequently

__ __ often pushes too hard on objects, accidentally breaking them

__ __ difficulty judging how much pressure to apply when doing tasks or picking something up

__ __ difficulty identifying which key on your ring belongs to what

__ __ numbers and letters often reversed or backwards

__ __ difficulty telling time on an analogue clock

__ __ difficulty reading and understanding a map, bus schedule, directions

__ __ difficulty organizing and grouping things by categories, similarities, and/or differences

__ __ can’t seem to find words in word search puzzles

__ __ unable to identify foods that have gone bad by smell

__ __ difficulty being able to smell dangerous smells, i.e., smoke, noxious/hazardous solvents

__ __ difficulty being able to smell when something is burning on the stove or in the oven

__ __ difficulty distinguishing different tastes and/or flavors of food and/or drink items

 

 

SENSORY-BASED MOTOR SKILLS:

 

__ __ difficulty learning to ride a bike or other “moving” equipment

__ __ clumsy, uncoordinated, and accident prone

__ __ difficulty walking on uneven surfaces

__ __ difficulty with fine motor tasks such as buttoning, zipping, tying, knitting, sewing, playing games with small parts, closing zip loc bags

__ __ confuses right and left sides

__ __ prefers sedentary tasks, avoiding sports or physical activities

__ __ difficulty with handwriting; hard to read, takes a long time to write

__ __ frequently bumps into people and things

__ __ easily fatigued with physical tasks

__ __ frequently misses when putting objects on a table

__ __ messy eater, difficulty with eating utensils, spills and drops food

__ __ knocks drinks or other things over when reaching for them

__ __ frequently drops items

__ __ has to talk self through tasks

__ __ hums or vocalizes while concentrating on a task

__ __ significant difficulty learning to tie a tie

__ __ difficulty with motor tasks requiring several steps

__ __ difficulty lining up numbers correctly for math problems and/or balancing a checkbook

__ __ difficulty learning new motor tasks…a new dance, sport or exercise activity, how to drive

__ __ lose balance frequently

__ __ significant difficulty learning to type the “proper” way

 

 

SOCIAL / EMOTIONAL:

 

__ __ dislikes changes in plans or routines, needs structure

__ __ may be described as “stubborn”, “defiant”, or “uncooperative”

__ __ cries easily, over things others usually don’t, very “emotional” and “sensitive”

__ __ can’t seem to finish anything

__ __ difficulty making decisions

__ __ rigid and controlling

__ __ prefers solitary activities, avoids groups

__ __ impatient and/or impulsive

__ __ difficulty with social cues and non verbal language

__ __ difficulty with authority figures

__ __ trouble relating to and socializing with peers and colleagues

__ __ a “sore loser”

__ __ strong feelings of anger or rage

__ __ easily frustrated

__ __ needs sameness and routines; needs to know what to expect

__ __ have panic or anxiety attacks

__ __ plagued by fears and/or phobias

__ __ OCD-type qualities; can’t let foods touch each other on your plate, have to wear clothes a certain way, will only do ____, repetitively does ____, can not do _____ without doing _____, has to have ____ like ____

__ __ distractible and unorganized

__ __ hates surprises

__ __ difficulty seeking out and maintaining relationships

__ __ avoids eye contact

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November 22, 2011

151 Superhero Traits of AD(H)D…this is just the tip of the iceberg!

By adhdsuperhero

I’m a glass half-full kind of girl, which is good since my brain works kind of wonky, otherwise I’d put Debbie Downer to shame.  I can think of a million reasons why my brain is cool…as long as you give me three hours to come up with them all…I have a hard time deeply thinking on the spot.  Or thinking on the spot.  Or thinking in general sometimes.  Anyway, I found this list of 151 cool AD(H)D superhero traits which required absolutely no thinking on my part, whatsoever!  YAY!

Ability to find alternate paths to overcome obstacles
Able to take on large situations
Adaptive/collaborative
Adventurous, courageous, lives outside of boundaries
Always finding alternate routes to any given location.
Always willing to help others
Ambitious – you want to be everything when “you grow up”
Artistic
Attractive personality – magnetic due to high energy
Being able to see the big picture
Being able to see the patterns in the chaos.
Being intuitive towards others’ difficulties
Broad focus – can see more, notice things more
Can create order from chaos
Can do many projects at once
Can make people feel they are heard
Can see the big picture
Can talk about several things at one time
Can think on my feet
Career variety
Center of attention
Comfortable talking in front of groups
Comfortable with change and chaos
Compassion for others and for themselves
Conceptualizes well
Confidence
Constantly evolving
Courageous
Creates connections easily
Creative
Creative writing
Creative – musical, artistic, “dramatic”
Good in a crisis
Good at customer relations
Dedicated
Detail-oriented
Determined to gain more control
Eager to make friends
Eager to try new things
Empathetic, sensitive
Energetic
Entrepreneurial
Excellent organizers using journals and reminders (notes etc.)
Flexible – changes as the situation requires
Fun guy/gal to be around
Goal-oriented
Good at conceptualizing
Good at motivating self and others
Good at multitasking
Good at problem solving
Good at public speaking
Good at understanding others/mind reading – empathetic
Good conversationalist
Good delegator and good at organizing others
Good in emergency situations
Good listener
Good looking and aware of it
Good people skills
Good self esteem, energetic
Great brain-stormer
Great multitasker
Great self-company
Great sense of humour
Great storyteller
Great with kids (central figure around kids)
Hands-on workers
Hard worker
Has friendly relations with their family
Has the gift of gab
Helpful
Helps others who are also in trouble
High energy – go, go, go
Humour, very healthy, quick picking up ideas
Hyper focus !!
Hypersensitive – very empathetic and good at non-verbal communications
Idea generator
Imaginative
Impulsive (in a good way) not afraid to act
Initiators
Intelligent
Intuitive
It’s ok to not finish everything
Learning as much as I can to help children and others with adhd
Less sleep is good (midnight to 6 am)
Like to talk a lot
Likes learning new things
Look at multidimensional sides to a situation
Lots of interests
Loves to cook and be creative
Magnetic
Master idea generator
Mentoring others/helpful
Mentoring people with low self esteem
Modesty
Move on fast – never hold a grudge
Multitasks well
Never bored and rarely boring
Never intimidated to try new things
Non-linear, multi-dimensional/edge of chaos
Not afraid to speak mind
Not contained by boundaries.
On stage and ready
Optimistic
Outgoing
Passionate
Persistent
Philosophical
Holistic thinking
Playful
Pragmatic
Problem solver
Profound
Quick thinking
Quick witted
Relates to people easily
Resistant
Resourceful
Saves money in the short term by forgetting to file tax returns
See and remember details – recount them later
Sees the big picture
Socially adaptive and flexible.
Spontaneous
Stabilizer during difficult situations
Stable
Successful
Takes initiative
Tenacious
Theoretical
Think outside the box
Thinks 2 meters ahead of the world
Thinks big, dreams big
Thorough
Tolerant
Unconventional
Unlimited energy
Unorthodox
Versatile
Very creative, able to generate a lot of ideas
Very hard working to compensate – workaholic
Very intuitive
Very resourceful
Very successful
Visionary
Visual learner
Willing to explore
Willing to take risks
Willingness to help others
Witty
Won’t tolerate boredom
Works well under pressure
Worldly

Source: http://www.addcoach4u.com/positivesofadd.html

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